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writes: Hiya i really do need help with this my bf of 4/5 months has just broke up wiv me becoz of a lil mistake he went to the prom with his ex and i didn't mind until he started to be funny with me, People then came to me and said do you think somit happen at the prom and he said he told a friend at work wat happen as she thort her self he had cheated on me i said i didn't care as long as nothing happen but he laugh he didn't say no did so i txt his girl and she told me he said he had his hands all over her so i pulled him about it and she was only jokin with me but no he thinks i don't trust him but i do with my life, but he keeps on saying things like i can't go back coz you trust me and that he still loves me and wants us to be friends coz he wants me in his life one way or another but he wont leave me alone how are am meant to get over him if he keeps on saying stuff like he still loves me. Do you think that if i do be his friend and we start getting along again he mite what to get back together coz i do trust him.So here my question why is he been like that and saying all those things do you think there could be a chance of gettin back 2gether again please help my head all messed up and it hurts so badly nd how can i tget over him if there no chance of getting back 2gether
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut i do trust him with my life i know i do things have been said about him before but i never listen just he had been really funny with me after the prom and when 7 people started to say yeah i fink he mite have done somit i pulled him but i do trust him but now he messing with my heart and head am so lost he keeps txting me and ringing me i need some space from him am so confused why is he playing games with me and i don't think he cares that he broke up with i don't believe him now when he says i love you i need some help any help will be great please please help
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reader, mcbirdie +, writes (18 May 2007):
I am very sorry that you're going through this. However, I think it is important that you remember that simply repeating constantly that you trust him, doesn't really make it true. You heard rumors about what happened when he was with his ex-girlfriend and he wasn't willing to ease your mind by telling you nothing happened. I don't know why he would do that, but I think that simply pretending that you trust him won't make it so.
In my experience, no, you cannot pretend to be friends with him hoping to get him back. It just doesn't work. I'm sure he DOES want you in his life. You adore him; what person wouldn't want that around? But enjoying the ego boost you give him and wanting to be with you are two different things.
The best thing you can do is start to fill your life with other things that you enjoy. If a man wants you, a man will find a way to be with you. While he isn't trying to find a way, you have to assume he doesn't want you.
Best of luck.
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