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writes: I am interested in having a relationship with my daughter's boyfriend's dad. We like each other and would like to date.We live on opposite ends of the country but communicate each day.We will get together when we can.Here's the problem though, my daughter and her boyfriend are opposed to us having a relationship.They say its too weird.I have not had someone who cares for me and I for them in about 5 years.Now that I found a bit of happiness I can't have it. Am I being selfish.The Dad believes we have to do what keeps the kids happy.We can't ruin it for them.He says we can sneak behind their backs.Do you think the kids who are 19 and 20 could come to terms with the idea? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): its your life but i can see the kids point of view they were together before you were and if you got amrried to this guy then they would be step siblings and many people wouuld frown on their relationship but its your life if you love the guy then go for it
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (23 August 2009):
 Lazyguy!!!! How will this be incest???? The bf and gf are not even blood related,read up on the meaning of incest on Google and maybe you will learn a thing or two.
Dear Poster, I think you should go ahead and date the FIL. If the kids thinks its too weird, TOUGH!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (23 August 2009):
 Well, if you two end up getting married, then your kids will be siblings and commiting incest.
So yeah, I can see why they might object.
Then again, there are ways to avoid this and with them both being adults and probably out of the house, it really shouldn't be a major issue.
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reader, urbanking99 +, writes (23 August 2009):
It's your life, not theirs. You choose what you want to do and who you want to see.Can you imgine what if would have been like if you stopped your daughter from seeing her partner.I wish you every success, and let us all know what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): They are big boys and girls and the world does not revolve around their comfort level nor does it bow down to their selfish behaviour.
Yes, admittedly, i'd be weirded out if my mom dated my FIL, but that would be MY problem, not theirs. I'm not about to firbid someone else's happiness so that I can sleep better at night.
~Sy.
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