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writes:Allo...My girlfriend and I have been together for two years and love eachother very much...we're both 18...Surprisingly enough, we're not really physical people, lol physical meaning the full on making out and such, as we don't really focus on that, but rather on communication and actually having a a good time together without eating eachother's faces :p lol...however recently, we've just began to have little thoughts about maybe we should be more physical or not. Now this is actually my first relationship, and seeing as I'm not that physical, I don't really have the experience needed. So, if anyone might be able to give me an subtle hints that my girlfriend might want to be more physical (lol i mean other then simply asking her, we'd like it to be a spur of the moment thing), any tips would be appreciated...:)...oh , and she has ADD or ADHD which could be a contributing factor, i forget which one lol...Thanks =) Reply to this Question
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (8 November 2009):
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It sounds like you're just not terribly experienced, either of you, even in previous relationships.
You guys trust each other, right? And you're in love and loyal to each other, right? Then my best advice is much like my ex and I did... just go slowly and know that you don't have to get it right the first time. Nibble her ear, or put your arm around her for a romantic movie and slowly move it closer to sensitive areas. Pick her up sometime and hold her butt instead of her back. There's no reason to jump straight from kisses to sex, just get more comfortable holding each other and touching each other some. If she wants more, you'll know by a change in her breathing, or by her turning to give you a clearer path to her, or by her laying back and giving you access. She might close her eyes to take awkwardness off of you, or even undo her bra if she's feeling really forward. But don't just go from "hi honey" to an attempt to disrobe her. Go slow and feel your way through it.
If you take your time, she'll stop you when she's uncomfortable if you give her a chance to. If she doesn't, you may be able to go a little farther and then give her another chance to stop you. Touch through clothes before reaching for any skin, and touch skin before any clothes come off. At that point, it should be pretty clear if she's thinking what you're thinking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): Yes, I know I've already answered you once, but I want you to PM someone. His Auntie/Uncle name on here is Illithid. He is unavailable for the next few hours, and might not see this post, but I have sent him a heads up about it. You can send him a private mail. I think he could be very helpful to you and is close to your age. Hope this isn't out of order. And hopefully he can give you some good advice. :) mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2009): I always found it to be a "doing what comes naturally" type of thing. Just watch a movie or something and snuggle on the couch, and work into more. You get the idea. Maybe try moving your hands around to different places and exploring. I would definitely try something. Maybe a little at a time but just explore. That's the fun part of it. :)
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