| A
female
,
anonymous
writes: Nasty break up involving threats! I'm just looking for a yes or no.Me and my ex broke up about 3 days ago. We were together for over 10 months and I never could have fathomed that things would have ended the way that they did.My question is:Without going into details, do you think that two people who were once so intimate could ever be FRIENDS (let alone get back together) after the nastiest of nasty break ups? **We did not break up due to dishonesty, infidelity or mistrust. We simply lost all chemistry and realized how different we were from one another to the point that we were always fighting with each other rather than supplementing and loving each other. I think we waited too long to call it quits that we reached the point where we started hating each other.
View related questions:
broke up, get back together, infidelity, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Smiler +, writes (18 June 2006):
 Hey SweetieWell babe question for you... Why would you want to be friends with this guy anyhow you two had a nasty split from what you have said he hurt your feelings and all the rest he must of done to you so i honestly can't understand why you would want to be friends with him again? You were only together 10 months and lost the chemistry that you had between you after that its hard to regain the friendship back u know... My honest opinion i think you need to get over the break up first before you even think about becoming friends, i think once you can imagine him in your head with someone else and it not bother you at all, and get over all the feeling of yours he must have stamped on during the break up, once you can accept those things and truely move on maybe then you could attempt a friendship, but if you always used to fight when your a couple is a friendship with this guy really gonna be any different :o)I hope my advice was able to help you out with your situation sweetie and good luck with this... if you ever need a friend or a chat or just more advice don't hesitate to email me sweetie, I would love to hear from you again and know how you got on... Remember i'm always here for you anytime okYou Take Care Sweetie X
A
reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2006): This relationshipis broken and irretrievable, so Ihave to ask...why do you want to be friends with this guy, anyways? If it was a nasty breakup, and there was hurt feelings, then there is no ability to compromise friendship, at this point. I would say, move on and leave each other alone. Perhaps, several months down the road, when healing and recovery take place..a casual friendship 'might' be possible. If it doesn't happen...so what? Understand that couples break up and carry on with life. No friendship, no further connection...nothing. Don't feel badly if a friendship doesn't ensue..now that you both have broken up..you owe each other nothing..no emotional heartfelt feelings, committments or obligations. Do the time and heal and get out there and find someone more compatible to you and one who shares your relationship values. Look on the past 10 months as a great learning experience and have no regrets. Good luck, dear.
...............................
|
