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writes: hi, I'm 19 years old, and have never had a boyfriend or even been kissed. I would say I'm quite attractive but extremely shy when it comes to guys I fancy, except in a social setting though. How can I become more confident? I really do want to find someone but do not really know how.
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reader, chirpychicken  +, writes (18 June 2006):
 These two are right yes but i still think that what i said to you is more realistic. It's all very well looking into a mirror and saying your confident and that but its even better when you look in it and actually see yourself looking good while you do it. Trust me on what i said its a dead cert!take careCC x
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reader, Smiler +, writes (18 June 2006):
 Hey Sweetie
Hey there, so you have never been kissed honey there is absolutely nothing wrong with a little innocense.. seriously its not the end of the world, your just lacking a little confidence here that is all, i agree completely with pheobe here she is spot on with her advice here as usual, true confidence and self worth comes from with in, sweetie just be yourself, be more self confident as a person and once you accept this inside you will create a more self confident aura around yourself and guys will then in turn pick up on the fact that your self confident and happy... You have all the time in the world your young at the minute but you will gain confidence with experience, Don't be in such a rush to live your life yesterday take your time and enjoy your life to its full potential... :o)
I hope my advice was able to help you out with your situation sweetie and good luck with this... if you ever need a friend or a chat or just more advice don't hesitate to email me sweetie, I would love to hear from you again and know how you got on... Remember i'm always here for you anytime ok
You Take Care Sweetie X
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (18 June 2006):
 Hi,
you're not meant to find guys, they're meant to find you!
Start going out one night at the weekend, social places and meeting friends, this gets you used to being out places - work it into your routine, like breathing!
Next, before you go out, look in the mirror at yourself before you walk out the door and say to yourself "I am confident, I am beautiful (etc etc etc)." Until you believe it. Doing this before you go out gives your self-esteem a little boost before you go out.
Hope this helped!
Phoebe
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reader, chirpychicken +, writes (18 June 2006):
Organise some kind of party or a night out. book yourself a hair appointment, get one of your mates who is really handy at doing make up to do that for you (its great having it done by someone else, makes you feel different) buy yourself a really sexy outfit that you feel good in (make sure you feel good as it wont help your confidence at all), get drunk and tell lots of good looking blokes its your birthday. its a great pulling tactic and it gets you loads of free drinks! the drink will loosen you up. but dont get yourself so drunk you end up with mascara all down your face in a heap on the floor its not very attractive! you just need to get to that point where your walking but your very relaxed. if you are shy still get your mates to let the blokes know you like them its not the ideal way of going about it but at least then if they like you they will make the first move. whatever you do just make sure you realise that you are great and that it doesnt matter how shy you are theres always loads of blokes out there for you. do you have any mates who have boyfriends who have single mates they can fix you up with? go on a double date and see how that goes.I hope your confidence does improve and that you find somebody real soonhappy pulling!!!!
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