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writes:im so obbsessed with sex lately.im in a very good relationship over a year now, and my boyfriend cant keep up, all i have wanted to do lately is have sex and i dont understand why?at the beginging we used to have sex up to 6 times a day, now its a min of 4 times a week!!!i want it more, but my boyfriend tells me i need to cool off, but i dont want too, cos im feeling so much better after we have done it, i want to do it again.why all of the sudden am i acting like this?thank you :) Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 May 2010):
 6 times a day?? Don't either one of you have a job?
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reader, Zappa  +, writes (13 May 2010):
 Gees...six time a day? It is way too much give your bf a break
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2010): It will all be emotional. If he feels pressured it may be a turn off. If you feel rejected you may be using sex to feel secure. Needy and cool are not a good combination. Look deeper.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (6 May 2010):
 My Dear,
I read your report [not question or a trouble ] many time, all responses many more time...
You possess godly quality, so any guidance rooted from ordinary science and ordinary society will not give you light, your soul need. There is a godly science, and you are the object of that godly science. It is philosophy, I call this science a godly or divine, which is the supreme quality of some human being...and not all Individual.
See, there is no limit to how much happiness? Sky is the limit in the realm of happiness...or knowledge about happiness.
With most certainty I am saying that you are not the object of any psychologist, or any specialist that deal with psychological problem...because you are not problem but answer of all most all problems that ordinary Individuals suffered in their life.
Well, I suggest you to read my articles on Tantra...that will show you path...that help to define your goal, and means also. You and who ever partner you may hold will be blessed with right knowledge.
Best luck.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (6 May 2010):
 Wow, 6 times a day is a lot! I agree with oldersister - too much of one thing gets to be boring after a while. Just give him a breather and I'm sure he'll be wanting it just as badly as you. If you really need to cum, just masturbate, but allow him to rest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2010): Well, you may have a mild dose of nymphomania, also known as sex addiction.
'a min of 4 times a week!!!' doesn't sound too bad, it's not exactly starvation rations. If you're up for it all the time, that's fine and healthy, but if you're not happy going a single day from morning through night without getting any, that may indicate a psychological and physical over-dependence on sex.
Is this becoming a cause of tension and strife with your boyfriend? You say he tells you to 'cool off'...are you getting on well in all other areas, are there wider problems in your relationship, are you fighting a lot? If you are, it might explain his cooling off from 6 times a day to 4 times a week.
Sex - everything about it, the build-up, the anticiaption, the act itself, the aftermath - releases billions of feelgood happy endorphins in the brain, which can be a bit addictive or habit-forming for some people in much the same way as any other activity that's enjoyable. But six times a day, while undoubtedly great, just isn't likely to be practical every day of your life: maybe you both had unlimited free time on your hands when you started out and it was all brand-new, fresh and super-exciting for both of you. But suppose he's now working 40 hours a week? If so, it doesn't seem unreasonable that he's now content with 'only' four times a week. Or your sex drive might be a good deal higher than his. That would require compromise from both of you: talk to him.
Or you may be suffocating him a little with your demands (not just sexual: do you give him any head-space away from you at all, time with his friends etc?) Or there may be a bit of a void in terms of your ability to enjoy all other departments of your life: are you getting the most out of every day, walks, chats with friends, movies or the gym or whatever? Or do you depend entirely on him to feel really alive? What would you do if he had to go away somewhere for two weeks and you couldn't be with him? Would you cope, and if not, why not?
Fact is, I'd say most people would be happy enough to subsist on 'only' four times a week (Hell, look at the posts on this site, there's plenty of people who would be more than happy with four times a year if they could get it at all).
I'm not suggesting that you're wrong to want sex as often as you do, just that it really shouldn't cause you any distress to have to 'make do' with the way things are at the moment, and in the absence of any more info about you, I'd say: you have no problems and nothing to worry about, but if this one issue is killing you, maybe there are deeper problems within you and you might be wise to examine and address them.
Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2010): He is exhausted, let the man rest! Its not normal to keep up with 6 times a day!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2010): Perhaps your boyfriend is tired?! Wow I do it once a week! It does hurt a guys thing to keep doing it and doing it! 6 times a day?! Wow that's way too much! Don't be selfish,there's more to a relationship then sex!
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