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anonymous
writes:I am going out with this boy (lets call him danny) and his ex, (she can be maddy) won't leave him alone. Me and her use to be best friends until danny dumped maddy for me - now she won't stop flirting with him. What do I do?
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (7 February 2008):
 Ok, fair enough, but there are boundaries in friendship.
He was your bestfriend's ex and that's a line you shouldn't cross.
It's up to you what you do, but it seems to me like you've already made your decision on this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBig help - but the thing is whilst she was going out with him she was flirting with other boys and trying to two time him. Thats why he dumped her and now me and him are really happy together.
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reader, bubbloo24 +, writes (7 February 2008):
Sorry but I have to agree with Leanna, you shouldn't have gone for a best friend's guy. No wonder she's upset. When you make a friendship with a girl, you make sure that you promise yourself that you're not gonna let a guy come between you.
The only reason you are feeling insecure is because the foundation that this relationship begun on is insecure - the boyfriend dumping your best friend for you and I don't think there is a way past that, because you will ALWAYS be thinking that he will do it again and it'll be YOU who gets hurt.
It's up to you what you do, but if I were you, I'd apologise to my ex best friend, realising what I did was a mistake and let her decide whether she wants to be a friend to you - but put yourself in her shoes, would you take you back?
I think you should get rid of this guy. I notice that you don't write that he's flirting back? Have you thought that SHE might not be the one totally in the wrong here?
If he didn't flirt back, she'd know she had no chance, if she keeps doing it, then she must be getting flirted with back?
You are in the state of mind when everything this guy does is perfect and that he can't do anything wrong.
Take a closer look.
Just my opinion- apologise to the ex best friend, and get rid of the *sshole.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): Well maybe you should have thought of that before you got with your best friends boy. You can forgive her for being a little angry at you for that don't you think?
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