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writes:I'm 15, 16 in July.. Me and my boyfriend of just over 5 months now have had sex. the last time was about a month ago. For the past few weeks i've been feeling ill and last night my mum kept asking me over and over and over again if i have had sex and it got to the point i just gave in and told her. Me and him have always been careful and the condom never split. I'm really scared now, my mum is taking me to the doctors on Tuesday to get a pregnancy test and to see why i've been feeling ill if i havn't. Everything is right now, i text my boyfriend last night telling him that my mum knows and he wasn't much help though i think he is panicking and i cant talk to him today cause he has college (he turned 17 not that long ago) and then part time job straight after and he has no money on his phone.If i'm pregnant will i get thrown out of school at the end of this year? I really want to continue my studies ( i live in Scotland) and i've thought about abortion but the whole idea is really scaring me.I don't know what to do, I'm so scaredhelpps.don't lecture me cause i really don't need it
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2010): Hey, if you've used a condom correctly and it hasn't split then your chances of being pregnant are next to nothing, you're probably just ill with a cold or something. Just try to relax. (: have you missed a period or is it just paranoid mum lol? Even if you were to fall pregnant then legally they're not allowed to kick you out of school. Most schools offer lots of support schemes to help teenage mums, it is completely possible for you to have a baby and continue further education. I really hope this helps! x
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reader, Quizic  +, writes (10 March 2010):
You're probably just nervous and are making yourself sick. I've had plenty of times I swore I was pregnant after me and my ex had sex but it turned out I was just being way too paranoid and getting myself worked up. You may be starting your period as well, they have a lot of the same symptoms some times. But it's not all good news. You could very well be pregnant, a condom does not have to break for you to get pregnant.
Did you get a good look at the condom? It may have broken, or he might not have even used one and didn't tell you. I've heard of this happening a lot lately. Even so, the only time you wont get to go to school is when you go on leave close to the due date so don't worry about that. I had two friends go through pregnancy in high school. Though I'm not sure how it works in Scotland. I'm in the states. You don't have to quit unless you want to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010): Well let me just say a few things
1. You don't actually KNOW you're pregnant yet so try not to worry about it too much, if he condom to your knowledge hasn't split then you might not be pregnant at all :)
2. I take it you're in like 4th year? Well I'm from Scotland too and I'm in 5th year, a girl from my year last year (when she and I were in 4th year) fell pregnant and had the baby in february, anyway..what she did was take all of 5th year off and is returning for a 6th year to get her highers (unfortunatey, cause she's a horrible person and she doesn't deserve a child) but yeah toubeot get kicked out :)
I'm not gonna say abort the baby, I'm actually very anti abortion but then again under certain circumstances, if I was your age well I want to go to the Glasgow school of art and take advanced highers and stuff so I think that I would consider an abortion based on the fact that I don't think I could give a baby a good life right now without relying heavily on my mum and dad who would probably drag me to the abortion clinic place anyway
I really think you need to see what your boyfriend thinks if you happen to be pregnant which I'd say is unlikely anyway but yeah good luck :P
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reader, HP1993 +, writes (10 March 2010):
 Heyy,
First, try not to worry too much about it until tuesday after the test. There's nothing you can do until then.
I've been in a similar situation but it turns out to be nothing all the time, i just worry too much.
You could just think you are, and it's got into your head, so you feel sick.
Happens to me all the time. If i think 'oh god the contreception didnt work' i always start feeling ill and think my stomachs getting bigger but it's all in my head.
And well done for telling your mum. It'll deffinatly bring you both closer.
If you actually are pregnant then you need to thuroughly think about your options.
Are you ready for a child? Is your relationship stable and long term? And what'll happen to your education?
If you feel like you (and your boyfriend) want to have a child, think about it again. And once more just to be sure.
Hope i've helped in some way x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010): Hi, Me and My Girlfriend had a similar situation, Condom split, She didnt tell anyone and just went doctors and had pill without even me knowning, Atleast your telling your boyfriend and dont worry bout your mum and dad knowing it for the best they are only trying to help. I was scared when i found out and i had mixed emotions "should we keep him/her or get rid of him/her" but remeber if you are pregnant touch wood your only about a month anythink can happen. Just go doctors and find out if you are and not, and sit down with your boyfriend and speak to him about the situation that always helped for me
Hope this helps :)
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reader, young couple +, writes (10 March 2010):
Hi this is the wife. You really need to do what is best for you and your bf. I recently had a baby. Honestly no one can tell you guts what to do id you are pregnant. It us your lives and your child. I hope this helps you if you have any questions at all let me know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010): i had the same problem a few weeks back. felt ill, missed my period. I didnt turn out to be pregnant, but my doc said if you worry about things constantly than it can affect your body. Also you may not be eating properly due to worry, so that may make you feel ill.
And i dont think you'll be thrown out of school. It's your choice and if you go to the doctors and do find out your pregnant, they'll guide you through all the options, including abortion.
If you are pregnant, talk things over with your boyfriend. He may not have the same views as you as to what to do with the baby.
I hope that helps. let us know how it goes and if you need any more advice :) x x
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