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writes:I am 16 and have really liked a guy for 7 months now and I got the feeling he liked me too (we're both quite shy so nothings happened) but last night he invited me round his for the first time and we were having a really nice time and got on really well and then we started to make out etc. But when he put the condom on and we tried to have sex his penis wouldn't go in me, we kept trying but it just wouldn't go in. It was my first time of having intercourse at all though so when he fingered me I bled on him, I am aware this shows I am too young. But anyway when we woke up it was really awkward and ever since its been awkward and he's been all offy with me and is being all blunt, I really like him but I'm so embarrassed and don't know what to do, please help!
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reader, N91 +, writes (28 May 2012):
 I'm assuming from the description that you two aren't in a relationship? And this is the first time you've met this guy? And you were going to have sex? You need to be careful or you'll build up a bad rep for yourself with that attitude.
Regardless, if he wants to be off with you, let him. Shows he's childish. Will he be mature enough to want to pursue a relationship if he starts acting weird around you when you've done nothing wrong?
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (28 May 2012):
 He is being IMMATURE, not blunt! he should be pleased that you are so tight and that he is your first - a precious gift that you can give only once.
Are you sure that "getting on really well" is sufficient reason to donate your virginity to him? You could be better off finding someone that you love, and loves you back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2012): Just be calm, aloof, play it cool. He's probably being this way now because he was embarrassed about the lack of 'performance' so being rude is his way of pretending he's not feeling really small right now.
just give it time, act like you don't even remember last night. don't try to approach him to "talk" as that will just freak him out even more and drive him away. Just back off, act like nothing ever happened, don't mention anything about it, give him some space and then after some time has passed behave toward him like normal as if nothing ever happened. Then see if that doesn't get him back to normal with you too. Then if things are normalized between you, the next time you make out you can try something different.
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reader, bOy CrAzY;}  +, writes (28 May 2012):
Well this is awkward. People are going to tell you to be ashamed and that your too you tell them to shut up.
This is going to sound way bad. But if you have never like masterbated before and have never gotten yourself used it having some kind if thing down there well it's not going to go smooth. And we're you tense? Probably so you weren't relaxed so idk you probably saying I know this. But as for the boy which is what I presume your mainly asking about. Well he will probably tell his friends and he is probably embarrassed that he couldn't do it either and he probably thinks you hate him. Bring it up with him privately. Not over the phone or texting in person so you know his reaction and see if he can be honest with you.
And for your new at sex thing google it. It'll be way less embarrassing for you and the people trying to give advise.
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