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writes: my friend was out last friday night and suffered a really bad beating that has left her unrecognizable basically whoever did this to her left her for dead, she was left lying in a waste ground for 3hrs unconcious when she was found she had no clothes on which makes me and my other friends believe she was raped. when she got to the hospital she said the doctor examined her for any sexual distubance and she told us he had said she wasn't sexually touched. thing is now she's saying that the doctor didn't examine her and that he justed had a look at her vagina without touching her and didn't do any swab tests. when we ask her about the attack she says she can't remember a thing as she was blocked. may i just say my friend is gay and looks very boyish and can down drink probably better than any man. me and my friends are worried about her as she won't go to the doctors to get an std or pregnancy test done and she's bleeding from the vagina now. how do we persaude her to go to the doctor as she's in denial of what happened?
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reader, pica +, writes (14 October 2006):
You are being good friends and that's great. I suggest contacting a rape crisis organisation for advice on how to handle this - I'm sure they wil be glad to help you. I hope your pal gets the medical attention she needs; keep supporting her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2006): you absolutely cannot and should not persuade her to do anything unless she wants to or is ready to. i know that's hard to understand, and that's extremely difficult to do. especially since it's because you only want the best for her. but believe me, the best thing you can do for her right now is to be supportive. if you keep pushing her, she's only going to turn away from you, and i don't think that's what you want at all. if i were you, i'd make sure she knows that you are there for her any time she needs someone, and tell her that whatever decision she wishes to make about this incident, you'll support it. because right now, she's feeling like hell. and she's going to deal with it the way that she wants to, no matter what you say. so you might as well just be there along the way.and i say this only because when my best friends brother died, that's how i handled the situation. she got into drugs, began skipping her classes, drinking, etc. and all i wanted to do was shake her and tell her that she was doing all the wrong things to make herself better. but if i did that, she'd just get pissed at me and turn the other direction. and so i just made sure i told her i loved her, and that any time she needed a friend, i was always there for her. and if she called me crying, i was there for her. and if she called me drunk and needed a ride home, i was there. and in the end, she wound up thanking me unconditionally. because i was the only friend who supported her unconditionally no matter what she choose to do. but that's just my opinion. good luck.
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