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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been together just over a year bt the last few weeks havent been the same i mean we both still love each other and want to be with each other but thes nothing there if that makes sense basically it feels like were best mates rather than more.We bot want it to be sorted out and back to what it was.We argue quite often n we see each other about 3 times aweek.I was just wondering if anyone had any ideas how to help me out.any advice is gratefully thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (17 November 2007):
 There's a difference between loving someone, and being "in love." Being "in love" is that wonderful feeling that you get......I don't know how to describe it. Yes it feels good to love someone also, but there's a difference between being "in love" and loving someone. They both involve love, but being "in love" is much better. It seems like both of you lost your spark. Maybe you need some space away from each other to get that "in love" feeling again...that, I miss you, I'm crazy about you feeling.
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reader, Star_07 +, writes (16 November 2007):
 It sounds like you two are starting to really get to know each other. It wont go back to what it was because in the begininng there isnt much work to be done. After a while things change, but it doesnt have to be a bad change. Are you two still "in-love" with each other? What are you arguing about? You both need to talk about what is bothering you/her and talk about how you two can resolve this. If you dont come up with a solution now, things are bound to get worse as you two are not growing as a couple.
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reader, rockelle +, writes (16 November 2007):
 I guess the easiest way ti figure out what the problem is between the two of you is to sit down and discuss it. Discuss not argue. Ask her what she wants from the relationship and ask her if there is anything she would like you to work on or improve. Then you voice your wants, needs, and opinions to her. Come to a mutual agreement and go from there. If she is willing to make it work and so are you and you love each other this is probably just a rough patch. All relationships have one and they eventually pass.
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