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writes: I met a guy 6 days ago, and we ended up spending the night together. We were going to meet up a couple of days later, but he text to say he was unwell. The msg was really friendly, and said he'd be in touch when he was better, kisses on the end, etc....but I've not heard anything since (it was only 3 days ago!!)? I really liked him, but can't be sure if he's still interested and genuinely ill, or whether he's giving me the brush-off since he's got what he wanted?
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reader, Yos  +, writes (14 July 2006):
 If you sleep with a guy on the first date, he's likey to think 'oh she probably sleeps with lots of guys on her first dates'. He then won't want to see you again, or if he does see you again, he'll only be looking for some more or a casual relationship, nothing very committed. It's the reason not to have sex on first date. Not always true of course, but more true that most women would like to think. My guess would be you've fallen foul of this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2006): You met him six days ago and had sex on the first date? Generally not a good idea! I've heard men say (to me) "you have to wonder about someone who has sex on the third date." And that's the THIRD date! Of course, when you meet a man and feel an immediate powerful attraction, its very tempting to jump into bed. But then, you miss out on getting to know one another before getting physical. Once you've "done it" so quickly the pleasure of taking your time and looking forward to sex later on, is lost.
Maybe he will call. Maybe he was sick, who knows? It HAS only been 3 days. Don't contact him, but give it time. If you don't hear anything by next week (next Thursday, say) you'll know what's up - either he'll get in touch and make plans to meet, or he won't.
Think about this for the next guy you meet!
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reader, Bombshell +, writes (13 July 2006):
 Things like this happen often. Maybe he's thought about things and is wondering if you have done this before. Guys, like women like to feel special, but if they feel that you do this all the time, they may back away. I would recommend not calling him. Just give it time and see if he calls. If he doesn't, then just let it go and realize that it's not you. He can't possibly know all your qualities in one night, so he may never know what he's passed up. In that case, just move on and don't sleep with the next guy right away. Let your qualities shine and draw him in by your inner beauty. Don't be so quick to give it away.
Don't get me wrong, I've done the same thing. So I'm in no way judging you. At times we all get swept up in the heat of the moment hoping things will blossom into something wonderful.
Best of luck to you!
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