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41-50,
*ixieGwen
writes:Here's a summary of before and current. Bf and I broke up a mo ago - said he was no longer feeling it, which Is BS because he messaged/saw me daily*he has financial/work problems*.Hung out as friends/ended up having sex. I messaged and he always replied but then id stop for a couple days and he'd be bothered/thinking I have better things to do than message him. Randomly he told me he's been on dates w/ someone we know. He tried to make me fish for details - I didn’t so he rubbed it all in my face. No matter if the sub changed he'd go back to it. We had coffee the next day. He had a shit eating grin the whole time and complimented me a bunch. He made sure I knew that women want him but he's not sleeping w/ them. Told him about a drunk guy that randomly got naked and told the guy I’m not that kind of girl. My ex said "if he was attractive, what would’ve u done?" I said he was attractive but I’m still not that kind of girl. He brought up our relationship/y it didn’t work. He said he has issues but is working on them. He still has this cutesy keychain I bought him in his car. He dropped me off and gave me a super long/breath taking hug. I haven’t messaged him in a week/he hasn’t messaged either. I'm confused because he's been back n forth w/ me this whole time. We had orig. agreed to keep in contact/be friends...During our relationship he was too happy w/ me/couldn’t get enough of me, talked about us moving together in the future/made sure I met his family, he’d make comments like he's worried id cheat, towards the end he implied that I’m addicted to sex. Us breaking up happened in a flip of a switch. I guess it just kills me because I don’t know the real reason why it didn’t work out and he's given diff reasons, he contradicts himself and isn’t even sure why. I'm surprised he hasn’t messaged/called me lately. We seemed so happy together and then all of a sudden it was gone. I figured if someone lost interest they would call less/seeing that person as much and that never happened. I know I shouldn’t care and let go - I’m trying. Opinions are good...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): I think you need to try to move on with your life, to forget him. I know this prob isnt what u want to hear but the sad reality is people do make life changing, earth shattering decisions in a flip of a switch...he's probably having fun being single again, getting attention and knowing your still there if he needs a "pick me up" Thats not to say he wont one day want you back, but if he ever does (and please do NOT wait around for this day - you have a FABULOUS life to be getting on with ;0) be VERY CAREFUL. Don't jump back into anything - you may actually find you don't want him anyway...Life is too short - if you can't beat them, join them! Hook up with old friends, go out, have fun! Above all else enjoy life! At the end of the day it really is his loss :)Good luck!xxx
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