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writes:Hi Aunts and UnclesHELP!!!!!Basically there is this woman that I met a year ago. She started working where I work and I was instantly attracted to her. She is very beautiful and sexy but also has a great personality. I did ask her out at the beginning, but she told me she had a boyfriend (who I met).They however, broke up 9 months ago. I didn't ask her out again as I though she may need some time to heal after her break up and I didn't want to be a rebound guy. We did however continue flirting at work like mad.About 6 months ago we went on a night out for a work do. She turned up and I honestly have never seen anyone look as beautiful as she did that night. I still remember what she looked like now. At the end of the night her and a few others came back to my house for a few more drinks. When everyone else left it was just me and her as she had to wait half hour for a cab.We talked and flirted outrageously again, and then I all of a sudden had the urge to kiss her. So I did and luckily she kissed me back, and one thing led to another and we had mind-blowing sex. We couldn't keep our hands of each other, couldn't wait to get upstairs and the sexual chemistry was just over powering. A few months after that it was a regular thing for us to have sex most nights. But it ended up not being just about sex.We started going on dates, buying each other things and everyone at work, my brother and her sister all treat us like we are in a relationship. She is even basically living with me. She is here every day and night and we hold hands when we walk together. She is contributing to living here, she buys food every week and is always cleaning. I know she is not seeing anyone else as she spends most of her time with me or dinner with girlfriends. I most definitely am not seeing anyone else.I am not complaining about any of this. I love living with her and am very comfortable.The problem is we have never spoke about what we are to each other. Are we in a relationship/aren't we? I think we have left it so long to talk about it now that it would be awkward especially because how it all started by just sex.I do however know that we do need to have 'the talk'. The thing is, I am madly in love with this girl. She is the most amazing person to me and no other girl comes close. But I have never told her that either.So I have plucked up the courage to do it tonight. I have convinced our manager to let us have the night off. I am making a romantic meal with wine and candles and even bought a new shirt for the occasion.My problem is I can't seem to find the words to tell her I love her and want to be with her.I need help with a peach type thing if any of you can hep me? Nothing too fussy but romantic. I would feel more prepared with a speech and less likely to duck out like I have done many times. Please help!!!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 December 2013):
 OH I LOVE happy endings!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2013): Hi Aunties and Uncles- OP
Thank you for all your advice.
Well I DID IT!!!!!
Everything went so well. I made dinner, she turned up looking absolutely beautiful. We ate, drank wine and laughed so much that night. After dinner, I finally plucked up the courage.
I said a speech similar to the one Maureen1879 told me to say, but I tweaked it a bit to make it a bit more personable.
After I made the speech, she burst out laughing.
I was so confused.
Then she simply said 'You are my boyfriend. We are in a relationship, hadn't you noticed'. She then kissed me and we made love. After we were cuddling and I told her I loved her and she said it back. Then this morning I woke up to a letter from her saying how much she loved me and I make her very happy with a cute little picture of her attached with a funny face.
Sorry for gushing a bit, but I am so happy. I honestly have no idea what took me so long to tell her. But I am glad I finally have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2013):
I think that what Maureen put was very adapt especially the speech part .. I couldn't add anything to it .
Otherthan be happy . You sound like a lovely couple .
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