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writes:Me and my bf are both 18 and we were fooling around on his bed the other night and he took off my bra and started fingering me. So i reached into his boxers and felt that he was hard. I tried to give him a hand job but before i could, he took my hand and puled it out of his shorts. I told him that i had a condom and got it from my jeans (my friends gave it to me to be "prepared"). I gave it to him but he just tossed it on the floor. We continued to make out while was still pleasuring me and thats as far as we went. Why didnt he want to do anything? I dont mean to sound like a slut or anything but i thought all 18 year olds were constantly horny?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): Could be nervous. I dated a guy once who really wanted to lose his virginity (he was in his 20s), but guys have a lot of ego wrapped up in it, and he'd decided he wanted his first time to be with someone he was dating - not so much b/c he wanted it to be special and wanted to be in love, but b/c he was worried he wouldn't be very good and didn't want the other person to judge him for it. Just relax. Not all guys are always ready to have sex all the time; it's nothing to do with you. Give it time.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (6 July 2008):
 Maybe he just wants to wait a while. Dont knock it! Just wait and see what happens next time he may not be ready yet or thinks youre not. He could be virgin and a bit shy and unsure about it all. Give him time x
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reader, LouLee +, writes (6 July 2008):
 he might possibly have an s.t.i? and doesn't want to give it to you?
sorry for mentioning this, just came to my head.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): My guess is that he is either a bit shy, or that emotionally something is telling him he is not yet ready. It doesn't sound like he doesn't want to, he might not want to rush that next step, or there could be other reasons. I would encourage you to ask him, not from the point of being defensive or hurt, but rather to understand where his head is at. It will make you feel better, bring the two of you closer, and might make him feel more comfortable to go for it, if that's what you both want.
Good luck.
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