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writes:Hello im in need of help! I just want to make sure im not over reacting. Yesterday me and my boyfriend talked and texted back and forth for most of the day, until about six o clock. We normally talk ever day but last night around 830 I called but he didn't answer and he didn't call back until this morning at seven. It made me mad but I didn't say anything because I dont want to blow it out of proportion!Am I being needy or clingy, or should I question him about thisThanks
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reader, Marilissa75 +, writes (17 March 2014):
 Texting all day long is very draining and distracting and he needs space. Tone it down a bit. Focus on a hobby, doing things with your friends, and self improvement through whatever you like to do, such as fitness classes, reading, watching documentaries, learning new things, helping a neighbor or family member, or going to a film or art exhibit or even listening to music and exploring new music. When you get too codependent, it usually causes the other person to become avoidant. It causes him to want even more space and then you end up feeling abandoned. It is hard being the needier person in relationships and so one of your major life tasks is going to be to strengthen yourself and learn how to cope with the feelings you have. Education and exploration are ways to help distract you and make you a stronger, better person. Don't give up on yourself. Best of luck to you!
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (16 March 2014):
 I second Ciar's perfect answer, it's bang on target so OP take note!!
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (16 March 2014):
 Extremely needy and clingy. Yes, you are over reacting.
No, I would not mention a word to him. You already spoke to him and exchanged text messages back and forth for most of the day, by your own reckoning. People do need some personal space and I daresay he has other friends he'd like to keep in touch with.
You need to find something more productive to do when you two are apart because this huge sense of entitlement you have to all of his free time will get you labelled 'psycho'.
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