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writes: Dear CupidI am puzzled and frustrated and I need some help. I don't know what to do about my former girlfriend.10 years ago, she broke up with me. Before that, we lived together for a few years and we believed we had met our soulmate. We felt that we complemented each other so well in many areas. Like any other couple, we had our little problems (mainly due to misunderstandings), but we were always able to work on them and find a solution good enough for both of us. Our relationship was based on mutual respect, love and and an intense passion for each other.All this changed when I had to move to another country because of my work. While I was living abroad and for a reason that was never clear to me, my girlfriend broke up with me. I was devastated and I was never able to really move on with my life. I met other women, but I never felt those vibrant feelings I had with my ex.I came back to my country and called my ex. I deep down wished she would want me back, but she wasn't single anymore. We decided to meet and I found out that our passion and our love was still there.We have been talking almost everyday and she says that she loves me and that she wants me as much as before. She told me she loves the guy she lives with, but she never loved him the way she loved/loves me. They share household and bought a house together what makes everything more complicated.I would love us to get back again and I do want to do what's best for both of us, but I don't know what. I just know that this situation brings me a lot of sadness and frustration because I can't get hold of her every time I would like to and because my love is too great to be lived in the shadows.Advices would be truly appreciated.
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reader, Tim +, writes (22 November 2005):
 It is too hard to break her new love and relationship for her and break her fiancy's heart, she is the one to blame for all this and so much pain in ur life after all no matter if she really means it she loves u but it was her who left u when u were away out of ur country. i feel ur heart, i respect ur feeling but u met the wrong gal,who played with ur feeling. it is very hard for her to leave her new b/f or husband, it is better for u to move on, life is full of sandess and happiness and lil surprises and few sad chapters hold on u might find someone better than her try to wash out ur memory and free ur soul from someone who is in love with somebody else right right now. she belgons to him now, she can cheat but that isn't work out till end of ur life, that way u two will hurt urselves more and more. respect her and her love and let her be happy after all and try to change ur mood and ur life
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reader, shania  +, writes (18 November 2005):
 You left her to work in another country,she finished with you because she got fed up waiting for you.Then u turned up hoping she was still single but no,she moved on and went with another man.Now you have met up again but is her heart still in it?The reason i ask this,is because i dont see her rushing for her suitcase and running off to be with you.Yes, she probably means what she says when she says you were the one but talk is cheap and im all for action.If your lady friend really wanted you she would of left her boyfriend that would be that.It seems the tables has turned now and now its you waiting for her but i cant see her leaving her fella.Walk away and dont make any contact,lets see if absence does make the heart grow fonder,if she starts to miss you and decides she does want you after all,if she doesnt make no contact then you know the answer. Give her space.Good luck
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