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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:We never got to meet, and i scared him off. He lives a few states down and Ill probably see him in 2 years at my best friends wedding (we met thru her) We used to talk lots and then i told him how i felt (eventho we never met) and he told me he jus wanted to be friends and pretty much said to stop talking (i havent talked to him in a month) and all i keep thinking is, if he just got to see me, things would be different. I cant get over him mainly because i think, we'll meet in 2 years and he'll fall for me. my friend thinks im crazy and should move on, but i dont like people easily, i actually liked this guy and he was worth it, and i keep telling myself im never gona meet anyone as creative, open minded, with all the right values as him....we were the same person and i know he liked me, but i really scared him off. I dont wanna go back to him or try to talk to him b/c that would just make me look bad, i just wanna see him when he comes here, but waiting that long will waste away so much life, this is such a bad situation, i cant even let another guy in b/c im so head over heels for this guy, and the fact that he was going to come here this winter and see me, and now wont, kills me...the fact that something great COULD have happened if i didnt rush so soon and get upset when he didnt call me, this wouldnt hav happened. It just feels incomplete, like i wont rest til i see him, and until then, no one will appeal to me because he'll be in the back of my mind as the guy i never got to see and never got to be mine. Part of it is, not winning him over, and part is i wont find anyone as amazing as him. How do i get over this and how do i stop myself from expecting him to fall for me when he comes here in 2 years...he might not even come to her wedding, he might be engaged or married by then, while im still stuck on him...like its stupid of me but i just cant help it. Its not a typical break up or a typical 'hes just not that into you' because we didnt meet, he hasent seen what he missed out on. Should i meet him? should i contact him? should i wait it out? I talk to other guys but they are so unappealing, its just not the same when ur heart is SET on someone.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (1 November 2009):
 You havent met him, how could your heart be SET on him. Turn off the computer and get outside, or read a book, or phone your mom, anything, get a life willya.
Dont contact this poor man again, your are in danger of becoming a stalker.
Get a grip!
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