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writes:well im a 31 year old woman who has been playing this game online for almost 3 years, ive meet a lot of great people there. well ive been playing with this one guy for a lil over 2 years we have always gotten along really well . and back in may he called me to tell me he really like me in a none friend type way i thought it over cause he is 10 years younger than me and he lives like 2000 miles away from me but i decided to give it a try well we have been doing great as do most relationships do in the beginning. well we used to play on the phone just to get to know one another and have a lil fun but we havent played in 3 weeks . i asked him about it and he said he just feels bad when he does it . and well since november he gotten a bit more testy meaner we used to play the game online for many hours at a time now we dont so much anymore also we used to talk on the phone a ton too and not so much anymore . i just found out he said hes a virgin and wow that was a shocker to me but i do know he is 22 i was scared for a moment there . but yeah our time together is not so much anymore hes more mean to me or i think so he always tells me i look at things the wrong way . and i know he knows i need lots of time cause ive told him that from the beginning that i need lots of time and it never was a problem til now i guess . i guess you would say im kind of a negative person i never see the good in something and hes the total opposite. but that used to be a good thing . well i recently sold a extra car i had just to get some extra money together so i could really meet him in real life and to see if we are meant to be . cause every other time i didnt have the extra money to get him here but now i do and im waiting on him to tell me he wants to come here to see me but now he says he feels bad that i sold my car and that he thinks he has gained a lil bit of weight like 15 pounds but he is so skinny not fat at all we trade pic and vid all the time . like idk i see him playing another game he had me go out and get just to play with him but he dont want to help me with it and gets all mad if i ask for help . but when he asked me to get it he was all like oh i will play with you and help you out but he really hasnt . but he says I love you everyday and that im the best thing to ever happen to him and that he so happy he found me and that im in his life witch all that niceness and sweet talk always gets me it used not to but idk this guy has some kind of hold on me i do love him so much . i was married for 12 years in a very bad relationship but i have been divorced for 2 years now but have been with my ex in 6 years i took time just by my self to find out what i wanted in life and when i found out what i wanted i was set, then this guy walks into my life and now im all mixed up with how its going now cause it used to be so good . well i guess my question is . what should i do should i just forget him and move on or stick it out and see where it goes ? but i dont want to wait forever for us to meet as he said its not going to be long but wow its been almost a year . so everyone what should i do ? if you need more info please feel free to ask . and thank you all .
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reader, caraly +, writes (28 January 2011):
caraly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell i havent been really talking to him for 2 weeks i always wait for him to say something to me as in like txt or call or see me on a game but yes i will give him more space and see what that does and well i never wanted a relationship to begin with but he insisted that we get into one idk maybe im over reacting like he says i do idk and as in going there well he dont drive and i would have to rent a car for while im there and get a hotel so yeah thats a lil bit more money than i have to spend if i had more i would
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): He's 22. Maybe you're scaring him a little? Back off. If you see him in-game, say hi in chat but keep moving. Be preoccupied with something else instead of pestering him on a daily basis. Don't bug him, don't call him. Don't pressure him about anything for a while. I mean, a few weeks at least. Don't stalk him on the other games and give him enough time to maybe miss you or make him wonder what you're up too. If he has genuine feelings for you then he'll call you at some point. He's a young guy, practically still a kid, you're acting pretty heavy about having a relationship so maybe just give him some space. A lot of space actually. Good luck to you both. Keep it real.
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reader, Abella +, writes (28 January 2011):
 is there a reason why you could not use the proceeds from selling the car, and you visit him? He may be feeling uncomfortable about accepting a generous gift (the funds to allow him to visit you),
Instead be kind to yourself and give yourself a lovely short holiday, visiting him.
What have you got to lose? By taking a chance?
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