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26-29,
*zzygurl
writes:Hey everyoneSo I met a guy on Facebook, I totally regret it now. We've been dating for a while now and we met in person, my mum and my grandma went with me on our first date and they met his parent too. I fell in love with him, and he told me he loved me too, I know he meant it. The thing Is when we first met he told he was 16 and I was 17 , but I was two years older than him in grade at school, he was in the 10th and I was in the 12th, it didn't bother me.Now he just told me he's 15, and that he lied because he thought I wouldn't date him if he told me from the beginning he was 15. I feel like he took me for a fool.I really fell in love with him, this is the first time I've really fell in love with a guy.He's been sending me upto 15 text messages apologizing saying he don't want to loose me and that he loves me. I still love him so much but he's just a kid, I'm 17.I told him when I turn 18 next year it's gonna be illegal, he said "I just checked it's not illegal for an 18 year old to date a 16 year old except they engage in sexual activity" but still he lied to me and I can't tell my mum because she's not gonna let me see him again.I'm really confuse, I don't know What to do, I still love him so much but do you think I should forgive him and continue dating or break ur up, I know he's gonna be really hurt if I do that. Please help. Thanks No rude comment please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2012): He lied with a reason, now it is upto you do you see him as you see him before or the reason of his lie. Secondly in love ages don't matter, feelings do. If our thoughts have compatiability then age can be no divide. I feel you go ahead and I am sure he will also take this relation maturely, provided you gave him a chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2012): Can't the pair of you just remain friends, or keep things simple in the relationship until you're 18 and he's 16? This way no one is doing anything illegal, and as if you're not old enough now to make your own mind up who to date or not, when you turn 18 you will be officially classed as an adult and no adult has the right to tell another adult what to do... Parent or otherwise.
Love is a tough game, and we can't help who we fall for. And let's be honest, you know he only lied because he really likes you but was afraid you wouldn't look at him twice if you knew of his real age. Its not like its anything really unforgiving and you are only both young, no real harm done if you ask me.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 August 2012):
 I think.... I would end it. First off at 17 a girl is usually far more mature then her male peers and this guy is 2 years younger.. so even further behind on the maturity scale then your peers.
Yes, it would be illegal for you two to have sex when you turn 18, you can be labelled a sexual deviant if someone decides they don't like it or his parents decide that they don't want him dating a girl who is older.
I can understand why he lied, but it still doesn't make it right.
Is this (his age) a deal breaker or not?
Is this (the lying) a deal breaker or not?
What else did he lie about?
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