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26-29,
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writes:dear aunt,there is this guy in the hostel i use to stay who is realy nice. first i took him just as a friend and every girl the hostel were crazy about him,even my close friend said she loved him more than any thing.but i did'nt look at him that way may because i am not so intrested in boys.but the problem is that just when things were going better between my friend and him i came in between .first i took him as a friend.but he started to get intrested in me.so i acted as if i have a crush on other guy who also liked me back.thind were kind of back to normal.when the guy who liked me made my "boyfriend" to have a breakup .whell my heart really wasnt broke but i didnt spoke to the guy who cased it but in the end of the year my friend had a crush on her x-boyfriend.which left the guy smiling.even i started to speak with him i guess i gotlitle attrated just alittle,also because my bestfriend have been giving me licture telling me that having a boyf is helping.so in the end of the year i decide to leave the hostel .so he gave me aletter inwhich he told he loved me more than anything else.when my bestf heard she forced me to tell yes by some how finding his number.but i dont really fell so comfortable with our relation but somewhere inside i like him alittle but also fill bad i took my friend love away.he phone me sometime because he is in hostel and his parents dosent allow.but when we talk i dont fell so open.what to do please help
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reader, Who  +, writes (8 June 2009):
 I see your flag. Tapai Nepali manche hunnuhunchha? (I know the spelling is wrong.)
Anyway, all this not knowing who likes whom when? Get used to it. It is the normal way teenagers figure out romance. In the old days teenagers did not have to figure out romance, their parents and other adults did it for them. Marriage was arranged and the teenagers (or pre-teenagers) did not have worry about which boy or girl to choose.
But now you teenagers have to do it all by yourselves. You are doing it for the first time and it is all new to you. The only way you are going to learn about is by doing it yourself. You are going to like several different boys before you find the one that is right for you. You are going to have several boys like you whom you do not like. And you will have your heart broken several times. You are going to have to just try the best you can and have patience. It will take some time for you to find the one you love but you have enough time.
This boy who wrote you the letter saying he you loved you more than anything else? Tell him you like him but you are not ready to love a boy yet. Tell him you will be friendly with him now and maybe you will fall in love with him but maybe not. Tell him to be prepared for either to happen. If he really loves you he will stay around and try to get you to love him back.
Tell your best friend you did not make this boy like you. You tried to make it look like you had another boy friend (when you really did not) to try to help her. You did not take her love away, and there is not much else you can do to help her. Tell her she can still be friendly with the boy who wrote you the letter, and maybe he will come to love her. But neither you nor she can make him love her if he does not. Tell her teenage girls have several boyfriends before they find the one for them, and she needs to be prepared to have to look for another boy.
Good luck and hope this helps.
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