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writes:hi i'm 13 years old and i took a home pregnancy test and it came back positive,i had sex for the first time when i was 11 and i really enjoyed it but i didn't think i was going to get pregnant, what should i do? i don't want to have an abortion or give it away. what do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): i agree with pebble's 1st answer babe. also may i say that whilst there is nothing much wrong with sexual pleasure of any kind at your age if you are going to get sexual pleasure by other means other than foreplay(namely sex)then after your baby is born i reccommend get an implanon fitted,go on the pill or use condoms,to avoid any more unwanted pregnancies. plus if you want to keep your baby which you said you do,then dont feel pressuried to abort or adopt.it is your baby therefore it is your choice.i wish you all the best sweetheart x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): when she said she had sex at 11, she said she had it for the FIRST time at 11 and really enjoyed. Not that she had sex two years and jsut got pregnant.
I don't believe you're too young to keep it as long as you have the support of your family.
I'm the same poster as before "armywife." I had to deleat my profile but I am still here to help you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): well you have basically decided this yourself.
i am 16 and 2 months off giving birth and I'll give you some advice.
1. you shouldnt have had sex at 11 thats really bad, but im not going to nag on.
2. if you want to keep the baby, see a doctor and tell mum or dad.
3. at 13, rlly you are too young to keep the baby and depending on your circumstances id consider adoption.
Abortion is legal but I personally dont believe in it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): You said you don't want an aborption so don't get one. Plus, your baby is a person already. Hair, eye colour, skin, all that has already been decided and it is officially growing. Home pregnancy test cannot i dont think even tell you before 4 weeks.. maybe 6 but im not sure. That's a person!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): from a guy...
I am in the U.S. and you could get an abortion with an order from a court and your parents need not ever know. If possible, do that ASAP.
You are neither ready to be a mom, or ready to think each day from now on about where and what your child is doing when it is adopted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): errrr, HELLO !!
if you had sex when you were 11, which is sooo unbelievably young, then you cant be pregnant two years later !!
this question just goes beyond common sense. i dont think your pregnant from having sex at age 11, unless that was a typo and you had sex recently?
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reader, pebble +, writes (7 June 2009):
 Yeah, we're all very willing to help. I am a mummy to be myself and I believe that armywife is also. We're always here and willing to listen. You do sound like you care a lot and I second that it is fantastic that you want to bring your baby up yourself. But the care starts right from the very beginning. To give the baby the best possible start, you need to get help from someone soon.
Keep writing back :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): I hope you don't mind that I'll be using your question as a link for every other 13-15 yo out there who comes on here saying "should I have sex? I feel I'm ready."You have to tell your parents. They will know in a matter of time anyway. But if you can't get up the courage, then maybe there's another adult? At your church maybe, or school? a counselor, teacher, friend's parent? If you talk to one of them, they may be able to help you tell your parents. If your parents are abusive or get carried away with their anger, then you will need one of these other adults to go with you when you tell them.But the simple fact is, you can't do this without an adult. But you need to do something quickly, because there is medicine you should be taking, a certain diet you should be going by, certain things you have to cut out of your life. That's living thing in there and the things you are doing now is affecting it. So you want to be sure that you're doing the rights things. It sounds like you care for it enough to want to do the right things. I think it's wonderful you don't want to get rid of it or give it away. Keep posting on this question and we will help you throughout the process of getting help.
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reader, Boogs +, writes (7 June 2009):
Hi there. I'd like to second Pebble's answer. Go and see your GP first to get the pregnancy confirmed and find out how many weeks along you are. Your GP may also have some advice on how to break the news to your parents. If you want to keep the baby then there's an awful lot of preparation to be to done not just in keeping yourself and the baby healthy but how this is going to change the rest of your life. You're going to need your parents support a lot more than if you were older as you need to finish your education whilst you're bringing up a little one. I know GCSE's are the least of your concerns right now but that baby will grow up sooner than you think and you don't want to spend your adult life doing some crappy low-paying job because you didn't have chance to get any qualifications. I don't know if there's any where in your area but I've heard that there are schools for mothers where you can get help with your education and also on how to look after your baby so you can be as independent as possible. Have a think about how to tell the baby's father as well and how involved (if at all) you want him to be.
Stay calm and the very best of luck.
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reader, pebble +, writes (7 June 2009):
The first thing would be to tell someone. Have you told your parents yet? Have you been to a doctor? You need to start looking after yourself and this baby by getting all the medical help you both need first. Your medical needs begin from the very first weeks of pregnancy, you should be taking folic acid up until your 12th week, the doctor will prescribe this if you ask him.Telling someone and getting help is the absolute first thing to do. Good luck.
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