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writes:I've really liked a guy for a couple of years, and we have always flirted and got on well. The other week we drunkenly kissed and he stayed over, although we didn't sleep together. Since then he's been quite weird with me and I get the impression he's embarrassed about what happened. We haven't mentioned that night at all and he's been less flirty with me, although we still chat like mates. I still really like him though! I'm too scared to tell him how I feel, as I just know he would turn me down. How can I find out how he feels without asking him?
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (5 August 2010):
 If you were both drunk then I suppose it's not possible to read mcuh into it. Possible he does like you but is embarassed that you only did it because you were drunk. Or maybe he doesn't. It's not enough to go on.
Play it cool. Looks for further indicators.
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reader, Salacion +, writes (5 August 2010):
Thats a tough one.
First off, a man that backs away, does so for a reason. Putting this into perspective, he would be (a) embarrassed as you say or (b) turned off. There's specifics you could mention to help us enhance upon our speculation, therefore, with what you've told, I can't theorize accordingly.
As for your oxymoronic question, there's no way around it, except asking. What I sense from you, is that you don't want to potentially undermine your friendship with such a question. But obscured insinuation isn't the way to go about querying. If you really want to pursue this relationship, ask him straightforward, but not blatantly. For example, tell him, "hey, so the other night, how do you feel about that?". It's indirect, and from it, you'll get a sense about how he feels. Ultimately, there's never a right way, but the best way is truth.
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