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writes: dear any agony aunti need your help bad, there is a guy who i really like lets call him j. now the other night j txt me at 1am to go to his room i did, we lay side by side in bed and he kissed me and started huggin touchin and caressin me i was in a state of shock, i was so happy, i left at 3am to go to my room and he kissed me properly on the lips. anyway yesterday j turned round to me and said he didn't want a gf cos he didn't have time. that hit me like a tone of bricks and my life came crashin down and i felt heartbroken. what i am askin is this, Why did he invite me to his room do that and then say no? he is the sweetest person in the world and would never play a girl, but honestly if he didn't have feelings for me that night wouldn't happen would it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2006): Ha! You think that's bad- my ex bf bought me gifts etc and had told me he loved me the first time- he broke up the next day, after I refused to sleep with him because my parents would be coming home and we didn't have time!
What I'm trying to say is that guys aren't always nice. Teenage boys are hormonal and to be honest, they don't think before they act. I imagine he's kicking himslef for messing you around, if that's any help.
And for the future- use the 2 week rule. Nothing 'intimate' (ie kissing on his bed in private) for the first 2 weeks into the relationship! If nothing else, it stops you getting burnt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006): Please note that he didn't dump you. You two did not have a relationship to begin with. Second, it's possible he was acting from his heart when he did those things with you. However, he thought about it logically with his brain and decided it wasn't good for him to proceed a relationship with you. It's also possible he was playing with you, but I don't know him to say that obviously.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2006): 1. It's easy for most guys to make out or fool around without feeling an emotional attachment. Guys often hook up with girls they don't have feelings for.2. Just because a guy has feelings for a girl doesn't mean he can/wants to date her. Believe him. It sucks, but seriously - believe him. Don't go back to his room, and try to forget about what happened. You deserve someone who cares about you enough to want to be with you.
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (21 February 2006):
 If he was the sweetest guy in the world he would not have used you. A lie women like to believe is that chemsistry equals love. Chemistry equals sex. Listen to your head it is telling you the truth.
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