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*ittlestacyq
writes:My question is simple, though I feel ridiculous asking it, given that I'm 19, but its been a while since I really liked someone, so I'm actually worried about it, goddamit. I met this guy, and he asked for my number, and then we had this intense 4 hour conversation on the phone talking about everything, and he really confided in me. We had our first date, went amazing, we clicked, and had so much in common, and had a lot of fun. At the end of the night, we kissed several times, and he said "I really like you" and I responded in kind.Then the next day, aka today we went out on a second date. We were both kind of nervous, I think. We went to see a movie, and then came back to my place like the night before to watch some TV. He had to go around 8ish because of work early the next day, and I said okay, and paused what we were watching. I was getting ready to get up to walk him out to his car, and as I was starting to move he said "No, its okay you're fine there" Saying I didnt need to get up, but then of course hes standing and I'm sitting, and hes like "Bye, the movie with you was awesome, etc etc. But we didnt kiss on the second date, and we did on the first. And I guess I feel weird about the fact that he said I could stay sitting down, when I was figuring I'd do what I did yesterday, walk him out to his car, and we'd kiss goodbye. So yes, I feel ridiculous asking this, but I'm worried, cause its the first time in a while I've actually liked the guy. Does it mean anything that he did on the first but not on the second? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): Stop worrying. I think what happened is he 'turned it down' a notch..perhaps he felt things were going too fast. Which in way, is a good thing. It means he's letting you know he respects you and he's just trying to get to know without the 'physical' aspects of the relationship, taking over. He just wants to be sure, you are the right girl for him. Wait and see what happens on the 3rd date. All it sounds like to me is he 'evaluating you' (you should be doing the same)and perhaps he felt embarrassed about losing control with you on the first date. Give this time, enjoy his friendship and build this over time ....slooowly. Good luck and best wishes to both of you.
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