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41-50,
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writes:I've just broken up with my girlfriend of 5 months but during this time the relationship was very serious. Today I received a text saying she wasn't ready for a relationship and we were over. I've tried to meet her and phone her but she's just completely ignoring me and I'm finding it difficult to cope and feeling depressed and constantly crying. What should I do?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (25 November 2008):
 Take a deep breath, step back from the intense emotions for a few minutes and just think a bit logically about this. You said it was an intense relationship, yet she breaks up by text message? That is RUDE!!! She must not have reciprocated your feelings as strongly as you think, I hate to say, and maybe she just didn't know how to break up with you.
My guess is that there were some warning signs that you didn't see or chose to ignore. A relationship that is too intense, too soon is a relationship that is headed for trouble. No one can maintain that level of passion and emotion for a sustained period of time with out some major blow ups. It's just not realistic, I think.
So again, deep breath, RELAX, try to see this through clear eyes.
She broke up by text; she's cut contact. Let her go, and get back with your friends who you've been ignoring, let them know that you need their support right now, and allow yourself a bit of time to grieve. Get some time and perspective and my guess is that you'll see what went wrong. Right now, you're too upset to be logical about this, so let your friends and family support you through this.
Take care.
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reader, Amy_89  +, writes (25 November 2008):
Im very sorry to hear this.
But it sounds like there is a third party involved.
Trust your instincts and move on. The sooner the better by the sounds.
You dont need to sit around feeling depressed, get out, see your friends, enjoy your life. Maybe see a doctor if things get worse.
Show your ex that you can cope without her.
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