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writes:My bf and I havent had sex in 4 weeks.I dont know why we havent,does he not want to have sex with me? We have been dating for about 7 months now. It also seems like a lot of other problems have come up. Like him flirting with other girls big time, i dont mind a little flirting but i've read things hes said to some girl that just make me feel like he doesnt really want to be with me.It also seems like he puts everyone else first and me last. We hardly get any alone time b/c we have 6 other room mates. I have told him how i've felt but it doesnt seem like he wants to take the time and work on the these little things with me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2007): The best thing for you to do right now is exactly what he's doing to you. If he makes you feel unwanted like he don't want to touch you anymore, then don't touch him. If you have already tryed to talk about it then stop talking. Silence leaves the mind to wonder and you can sit back and watch where he's wondering to. If he tends to flirt even more, it could be that hes not into you anymore. If he cares about you then the distance will draw him to you. In the meantime don't let him know your upset unless he brings it up. Do something for yourself and stay busy, even though you care for him you don't want to waste your time. Let him know that a relationship takes two people and you cannot fix it alone.
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reader, xkazx89  +, writes (13 April 2007):
Im afraid to say it sounds to me like heisnt really intrested in you any more.Although it may also be that he has other problems like maybe at work or with family? you need to talk to him about it and ask your room mates to go out and leave you alone with him so you can talk to him privately
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reader, Bullock5125  +, writes (13 April 2007):
Honey I think the best way to deal with this situation would be to talk to him. Don't take no for an answer on it either. If he says he doesn't want to talk or it feels like he's not really listening then walk away. If he's flirting with other girls you should deal with that problem too. Although sometimes joking and being friendly can be misconstrued as flirting I know cause I get blamed for it all the time when that's not what I am intending to do. As for the no alone time I am with you on that one I was just in a big fight with my boyfriend about it not because of room mates but because of a friend of his who never leaves us alone in peace. The best thing to do is either talk it out or fight it out. Letting it go on or ignoring it won't make it go away it'll make it bigger. If things don't change once you've talked to him it may be time to cut your losses and move on. If he won't help you fix this he obviously doesn't want the relationship to work out. Remember it's the little things that count because they can add up to huge problems. Hope my advice could help. Take care and let me know how things turn out and if you ever need my help give me a shout.
Sincerely,
Cassie
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