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writes: I've been dating my bf now fr 7 weeks which i know isn't very long, but things have moved soo fast between us that after 3 days he told me he loved me! i love him so much but he never tells me anything i always have to find out the simplest of things from others and hes the one telling me to be more honest and open! also when ever we agree to meet up its always such an effort for him to tell me where and when, he talks to me sometimes in such a hurtful manner and doesnt even relise. he has also made me question his trust when i hear stories about his friends that are girls coming up and one girl in question, who i know likes my bf, spending the night together on the couch alone. should i give this bad boy more time or his he a totall waste of space? plz help!
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reader, unclerich +, writes (10 August 2006):
to say he loves u after 3 days is a bit of a joke.when did he say it?falling in love with someone in 3 days means that i dont think that he means it.seven weeks is a long time.u may not be his only lover.what sort of guy is he?if u think he's the one then u need to work at the relationship.sit him down and ask him its the best way to find stuff out see how he answers u and take it from theregood luck
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reader, Tish +, writes (10 August 2006):
I read you post and I see my relationship at its early stages.Trust me sweetie your man has problems and if you see them in him now then they will only progress and a year from now they will be huge problems and you may just fins yourself in love with a man who treats you good and bad. Tats what happened to me and now I m in so deep that I dont know how to end it. If he talks to you mean and or puts you down, If he is controlling and distant when it comes to talikng to you about things and his past then mabye he has his own reasons mabye you should ask.All I am telling you and take my advice on this, Never let yourself fall into an emotionally abusive relationship,if he says hurtful things to you without weven noticing it most likely it is because he is so used to treating women that way that it is a norm for him. Sadly theres not much we can do anymore once it foes there, most times this behavior comes from his motheer. Believe it or not alot of the bull we deal with today with our men are compliments of their parents. Dont get in to deep sit and talk to him explain to him that you dont like it when he says hurtful things let him know that you love him but you will not tolerate him talking to you as if he has no respect for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2006): It sounds like you feel for the "I love you bit" and it sounds like this man is manipulative and knows exactly what to say/do to get what he wants.
He also sounds like he is emotionally abusive as he is uncaring of your emotional needs and is verbally abusive.
It also sounds like this BF isn't on the same page as you are; he isn't commited and still thinks it is okay to see and spend time with single and attractive females that are not you.
He isn't a 'bad boy' he is a selfish, uncaring loser.
Dump him quick Babe and move on in your life with out the dude.
You will find someone who will want to have a serious and loving relationship and who knows how to be faithful.
Good Luck.
*hugs*
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