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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Long story short: The ex and I broke up about a year ago after a two-year relationship. We then went on to hook up randomly throughout the last year even while dating other people. Also including once recently while I've been dating another guy. I told my new boyfriend about it and we went through the whole spiel of forgive and forget and I promised I wouldn't do anything like that ever again. And I'm sticking to that promise; no matter what.Well... my ex just informed me that he's finding interest in another girl. He apparently has thought her pretty hot since he saw her on his first day of his freshman year of his college career; this was about four months ago. I truly am happy that he's found someone he can move on with (if she reciprocates his feelings) but I just can't help feeling a little hurt and jealous by it all. Despite my own new relationship and the fact that I should've been well over him by now. I actually cried when I found out about it and ran straight into my new boyfriend's arms.I'm being so extremely unfair to my boyfriend and even to my ex, but I can't help it. It also doesn't help that my ex keeps telling that he has this weird feeling it'll be me and him in the end. I mean, really, giving a manic-depressant, young woman false hope like that? I shouldn't even have false hope considering I'm with another guy! I just feel terrible about this whole situation and I'm sick of feeling like this!I just want to know how to get over this while still remaining friends with my ex. If that's even possible...?
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (6 December 2009):
 Because you continued to hook up with your "ex" you never moved on. You may think you have, but emotionally you have not. Men are really bad about using their ex'es for a FWB sort of thing, while they're looking for someone else. Ex-girlfriends tend to fall for this behavior, thinking maybe he'll change his mind and regret the break up. The only way to feel better about this situtation is to cut all contact and focus on your current boyfriend. You are being unfaithful to him by keeping tabs on your old b/f.
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