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writes: Me and my boyfriend have been together going on 7 months. I am 31 and he is 37. He was married for 13 years and had two children. His wife was unfaithful numerous times and then was in another serious relationship for 7 years she was unfaithful. I was married for 6 years with two children. Me and my ex grew apart and he was unfaithful to me. We separated in March of this year and met my boyfriend at the end of May. My divorce was final in August and my boyfriend moved in with me. It was like we connected from the start, he always knows what I am thinking before I say it and always knows when something is wrong with me no matter how much I try and play it off. I told him I love him in July and and he questioned that. I tell him all the time I love him but he has never told me in person he loves me. I send him text messages that I love him and he messages me back that he loves me too. But that is it. The other night I told him I needed to know the truth, not to worry about my feelings just tell me if he loves me. He told me yes he did but still did not say the words. He is a wonderful person and true gentlemen to me. I am the happiest that I have been in a long time, I can talk to him about anything. He tells me I am totally different from the other woman he has been with .I do truly love him but unsure if he truly loves me and when he text messages me back is it because he feels pressured to Please help!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2006): If i was him i would be scared stiff too. Let him have some time. Don't ask him again and don't expect him to text you with this. It will happen when you least expect it.
Just keep loving him and the words will flow.
Take care
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reader, skates89us +, writes (21 November 2006):
If you think he feels pressured when hes responding to the text messages what do you think hes feeling when you keep questioning him. It sounds to me like you are happy. I say stop asking him this. he has good reason not to be so trusting. I am sure he has heard this before and he was cheated on by his ex wife. Can you imagine the pain. My ex was to insecuure for me. I loved her for sure but did not trust her own insecurity so I ended up leaving her and did it ever hurt. I really wish there wasnt so much pressure. men are very different in some respects than women. they are content to be content. They don't need demostrations of love and they don't trust desperation or declerations of love. they trust action and mutual companionship. Take a look at how guys act with other guys and you can see thats how they like it with the woman. When growing up there friends were not asking them all the time if they loved them' It was implicit. If you are not satisfied with your togetherness then let hom know . otherwise enjoy him and appreciate him and Be with him. just my two cents
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2006): I believe he is scare to commit in another relationship again. He do love you but he afraid that one day, the same thing that happened to his marriage will happen to him again. My bf is the same. That is why I know.
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