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writes:I have been friends with a man for 7 months. He is 34, I am 48. We had worked together and decided that we could not be more than friends for this reason. I recently took a job in a different location, same big city. We have discussed taking our relationship outside of work and beyond friendship now but we are wondering if the age difference will be an issue. I am a very young 48 and have taken care of myself. I am very fit and active and youthful skin. I have a teenage daughter who keeps me going. People think I am in my thirties. My friend is very mature and also takes care of himself. He doesn't want children (which I can't give him) but he has said he looks forward to "grandchildren." We come from the same background and share morals, values and interests. We clique and there is a chemistry between us that makes us both light up at the sight of the other. Other people have noticed this chemistry between us too (they tease us about being a perfect couple) but we had chosen to develop the friendship because of working together. Anyone out there have examples good or bad of this age gap working? We are also interested in knowing what pitfalls we'll have or any advice you can give. Neither of us wants to hurt the other, we do care about each other deeply.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks all. We will not even think twice about it and will enjoy where it takes us!
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reader, kenny  +, writes (14 October 2007):
 Age gaps invariably only ever become a problem is either of the people have got issues with it. If you can both enter this relationship not worrying about the age gap then there is no reason atal why this could not work. At the end of the day age is only a number, how you both feel about each other, the chemistry & the love you feel far supersedes age. After all its only 14 years between you, some people go well over 20 years and still have a very happy life together. You both care about each other deeply, so look forward and enjoy the love that this relationship brings, and don't let a measly 14 years stand in your way.
All the best & good luck x
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (14 October 2007):
 If you have found happiness then whats the problem age shouldnt matter when the bond is this strong, happiness can be hard to find and you have found your perfect man dont worry about age enjoy each other and be happy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): I have never had a problem with age gaps so i think you should both just go for it and enjoy what life brings you. You sound a very young and vibrant person and i can see just what he sees in you. Stop worrying and enjoy life to the full. We cannot see what is around the corner, thank god, so make the most of now.
take care
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