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We have a baby, but I'm worried about our future...

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Question - (29 March 2011) 0 Answers - (Newest, )
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi there. I have an issue about me and my fiance.

First off, we have been together for almost two years. We also have a one year old son. I became pregnant really early after we started going out and although it was a surprise for both of us, we got engaged when I was pregnant.

My fiance, he's a few years older than me (he's 21)... as much as I love him, I am really not sure about our future. I know I should talk to him and blah blah blah, but I really need other people's advice, advice that's not biased or from my parents or friends I know. He works full time, I stay home with our baby (we live with my parents). He won't buy a car because he never has any money, he spends it all on either himself and sometimes he buys stuff for the baby. And of course, my engagement ring cost a lot. So we don't have any transport apart from my parents (and his, but only sometimes, he doesn't see them that often). He also sleeps a lot, and because he works he thinks his job is the most important! We don't really fight that much, but I'm honestly worried if we are up to spending our lives together? We are really young, I didn't get to finish school, he never finished school either. At the moment he won't even buy a car, so I don't know how we'd pay for a wedding or even our own house!

At this point, should I be worried about our future? Are we making a mistake getting engaged or even thinking about marriage? Has anyone else here been in a similar situation? Part of me also thinks he only wants to be married because it's "right" because we have a baby. I just don't know what to think.

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