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writes:Well.. ive been seeing a boy for a while now and we had sex together the other day, the problem is it wasnt really a very good environment because people kept knocking on the door and stuff. as a result neither of us came and it wasnt as good as it would have been. im worried that he will think im bad in bed because he never came and i wouldnt go on top (i was quite nervous because ive only ever been on the bottom and was scared to mess it up) i didnt tell him that i just didnt go on top. what if because it was the first time we had sex he thinks im just not good in bed and is put off? and what if he tells his friends about it? i would be humiliated.. Please Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2008): Girl, you're only 13/14/15 and you've already had sex more than once??! Sorry to break it to you, but if you keep this up, you will, guaranteed, have at least 3, if not more STDs, by the time you're 18!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (18 July 2008):
 Hunny!
WHY? You do realize that sex is far more serious than people talking about you, right? This isn't a gymnastics display or exercise, this makes babies!!!!!! This isn't the sort of thing you do if you have ANY doubt that the person you are with doesn't love or respect you!!!!!!!!!!!! Like the movie Clueless, "I'm very careful about my shoes, and they only go on my feet!"!!!!!!! It isn't necessary to give your body to someone else when neither of you actually know what you are doing, how to have an orgasm, or how to prevent pregnancy or STI's! NOT to include the fact that sex makes babies! You should always consider whether or not the guy you are sleeping with would make a good father, 'cause that isn't an unrealistic possibility. At the very least, that should give you a thought to reconsider!!!!
If I ever went out with someone who respected me so little that I was a subject of discussion and fun among his circle of friends, I would just think that I had made a terrible mistake in choosing the man that I gave myself to! There is a good reason to wait until you are in Uni to have relations with guys. You are more equipped to deal with relationship issues and You are not having to see that person every single day. You are too young, Sorry, Sweetums, but you Are! Wait a bit longer and choose better things for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2008): Ok how old are you?? I think it is more important to tell you that you are way to young to be even having sex and it is quite a shame that your even worrying about wether you are bad in bed! honestly! The guy is probally in expereinced as well you dont become a great at sex straight away especially at the age of 13-15!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2008): Don't worry bout it hun. I think ur a lil young to be having sex n try to be careful babies r not fun I have 2. I enjoy sex and I've never came. Ever. Its all basically in ur head n I can't get myself that mentally close. As far as getting on top. My first time I was stiff as a board. If u want to have sex with someone u need to find someone your close with. Befriend him for a while n in that time tell him what you've never done and what ur nervous about then when u get to that point yall can help each other to learn everything. As far as his friends if he does tell its a typical male trying to be the big dawg if he starts telling say u made him quit in the middle cuz he was lousy in the sac. In 3 yrs in won't matter anyways everything will change. Best of luck sweetie
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