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female
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anonymous
writes: Ok so here goes I got out of a four relationship about five months ago. It was one of those break up everyday type of relationship where we had a lot of serious issues. I have to honestly say that I am a better woman without him. A couple of days ago i literally turned the corner and ran into one of my ex boyfriend that I broke up BEST friend . He was actually going out with his friends to a bar and invited my friends to come along and so we went. The thing is I always had a crush on him and apparently him and my ex are not really as close as I thought. Any who we exchanged numbers , The next day he calls me an we hung out. I mean we had such an amazing time just talking to each other. We made out a little but the highlights of our date was talking and getting to know each other. The day after that he calls me again and we hung out again but this time in his room. One thing led to another and well we had sex . I know that your suppose to wait but we just got caught up into the moment and he asked me if i wanted to have sex and I said yea . The next day after that we did not hang out but he did call me and we had a four conversation on the phone. I mean we talked about everything, life, love. He said how much he really liked me and HE said that we had sex way too soon and well he wants to really get to know me so we shouldn't do anything sexual we should wait . The thing is it has been five days since and we have NOT spoken, He did text Merry Christmas yesterday and I text me back the same. But i am so puzzled as to what happen here . When him and i spoke he said he really likes me and he wants to do "right" by me because he knows how badly my ex treated me because obviously they were friends. He said that he liked me alot and could see himself really being with me. I agreed with him and everything he said but I dont understand if we were hitting it off so great why hasn't he called? I haven't called him and I am not going to. I guess I feel torn inside cause I feel rejected. I do not regret do anything with him. Its not about the fact that we had sex thats something I wanted to do it about its about confiding in me about certain things and never calling me again I am confused about! My friend said if he was really that into that he would have called or at least text me to see how I was doing
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008): Relax, this guy might be busy. He told you he wants to take things slow. I know this might be very difficult, but try to calm down. Just keep doing your thing. Go out with friends and just go about your normal way. Give him time and allow him the time and space to come to you. Don't contact him. You are not desparate and don't want him to think you are needy or clingy. As I mentioned, he might be tied up with other commitments, but there could be numerous reasons. If he is "inot" you, he will contact you.
I understand how difficult this can be, but don't sit and wait for the call. All good things happen at the right time. I do hope all works out well for you, but if not remember the words of Anne Wilson Schaeff:
" We don't make mistakes. We just have learnings".
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