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writes:Hi everyone. Here goes; It's the last day of a crummy year, and I'm laying it all on the line...As some of you know, a 3 weeks back (in fact, the 14th of December), I met a girl while out drinking with friends. At the end of the night, me and her ended up making out, and this resulted in her missing her last bus home. Being a hero, I brought her back to my house for a coffee, and then got my kind-hearted father to drive us to her house to drop her off. We seemed to connect, and had a very nice night together. Last thing we did that night was have a quick kiss before she got out the car. End of the evening, and I felt great. I had her number, and planned to text her the next day.But after that nice evening, things didn't plan out as they were suppose to.It turned out, she lost her phone on the bus back to my house, and I didn't find this out until after her friends told me days later after I contacted them to find out what was happening. So from there, I had lost all contact with her. I tried to get information from the friends she was out with that night (they gave me their numbers), but they couldn't provide anymore than I already knew... I guess they just aren't very close friends.So, cutting to the chase: I met a very nice girl, we had a great night and I have since lost all methods of contacting her, all except for one, which I plan to undertake tomorrow. That being: I go to her house.I'll admit, it might come across as a little creepy, seeing as we only had one night together, but if we can talk, I think I will find all the answers I want. Primarily; "are we going to meet up again sometime?" I wouldn't do this unless there was a way around it, and I see no other way around it than to physically go there and talk to her.I'd like to hear your opinions. I know there is a chance of a mixed reception, but I am curious to see what you think to my plan. I will say again that I am doing this purely because it is my only option if I am to establish contact with her. My only other choice is to walk away wondering what could have been. Atleast tomorrow I will find out for sure.Happy new year!
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (31 December 2007):
 You are a very brave and cool guy!! :)
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (31 December 2007):
Andy00 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi. Well, I've been and done it... Things didn't go to plan.
She wasn't in, and I managed to embarrass myself. Someone answered the door and I thought it was her, we said hello, and she said quite strongly "And what can I do for you?." I was nervous enough, and I think that edged it for me. I spluttered out "Well, I gave you my number last week, and..." she looked puzzled and said "No I didn't...". At this point I was so confused and knew that this was already a disaster, and I sealed it: "...Tasha?" I asked. She replied "No, it's Natasha, and I'm her mum". Now, if I could have smacked myself over the head at this point, I would have done, but I'm sure it wouldn't have helped things.
So, this finally gave me a chance to recover the best I could, but I had obviously made a fool of myself already. I explained that we met in Oxford a few weeks ago, this gained the response "Did you now?", she then asked if I had met her in College, and I then got to explain that she attends my college. So to end it all I handed her a piece of paper with my mobile and home phone numbers on it, and we parted ways... I wanted to die.
I think nerves got the best of me, and I think that's why after all that, I failed to ask if she was in... Mind you, I expected her mum to tell me she was there if she was. I'd also like to explain that the reason I was unsure if it was her or not is that: A) It's been over 2 weeks since we met, B) Facially, her mum looks quite a lot like her, I think. And C) Her mum obviously had come out of the shower/bath to talk to me, as her hair was tied up in a towel. So for those stupid reasons, that is why I was confused, and that's why I committed first-impression-suicide.
I feel like I've fucked this RIGHT up! That did not by any means go to plan. If I had spoken to her, I'm sure it would have been fine, but now I feel like I've ruined it. The only chance I had, and I buggered it up. Atleast she has my number now, but if her mum explains that charade I pulled on the front door to her, I wouldn't be surprised if I was ignored. I can also picture her mum screwing up the paper and throwing it away. I'll never know for sure if she received the note unless I hear from her.
I could be worrying too much, as usual, but it looks as if now I leave the heartbreak year of 2007, and enter 2008 in humiliation.
I'll keep you posted.
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reader, Fionaisme  +, writes (31 December 2007):
 Hey i think you should go for it. The worst that can happen is that she can say no and you havent known her for very long so i think you'd probably think you'd take the chance rather than missing out on what could have been. By the way i think what you're doing is really cool as most guys wouldnt even bother and chances are she'll think it is too. Let us know how you get on ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007): its not at all creepy, its amazing.you sound like a lovley guy you really do.if you connected its tottaly understandable why you want to see her again.shes probably thinking the same as you, but doesn't know how to see you or whatever.good luck!happy new year :)
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