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writes:After a weekend away with a large group of friends, me and my extremely close girlfriend of 4 years had an argument over jealousy. She said one of my female friends - whom she has just met for the first time - was flirting with me. She got really upset when she came outside to find that my friend had given me a hug. It was slightly wierd having the argument as she has not gotten jealous like this before. Well needless to say, after a lot of arguing we decided to put it behind us. She understands that I am not interested, whether I am flirted with or not, and she knows that I would never cheat on her. Especially not with the girl involved int he argument as she is a good friend.However, now that the argument is over, I am trying to get back to normal. My partner is fine but after 3 days, I am still feeling wierd (but am trying to cover it up). I feel as if I am in love with her like I was. But this doesnt make sense to me, how can one argument make me change me from being completely infatuated and deeply in love with this one person, to considering finishing the relationship? Will this feeling pass? Am I just still angry?Please help. This is eating me up inside and I just dont want to hurt my partner.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (10 July 2007):
 We all get jealous at some point in our relationship wether we chose to admit it or not.
She was upfront about how she felt and it caused an arguement, but that is healthy that you can talk about these things.
I understand how you feel, you now have that doubt that she does not trust you, she does she just panicked.
You have decided to move on from that so do that you will get over it it's just a hiccup.
Take care.xx.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Hi,
I think it will pass, and you are still a bit resentfull. I know its hard for you, but try to understand your girlfreind was feeling a bit insecure, thats why it happened. Jealousy can be an awfull thing to deal with, its not easy to control either.
She loves you an awfull lot, and the green eyed monster got the better of her, thats all.
Give it a bit more time and it will be ok. And ask yourself, if you found her cuddling a guy you had only just met, wouldnt it effect you at all. Especially if there was a little bit of drink involved, and you were not quite thinking straight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): It's very possible you're just still harboring some sort of anger/hurt toward her. Try to get past it. Maybe you're angry at her for it seeming like she didn't trust you with this girl. Try to get over it, don't let this mess up a relationship. You're probably just upset at her.
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reader, babyhonu  +, writes (10 July 2007):
 i say give it another chance, tell her how you feel(feeling weird) and she'll truly know that you would NEVER EVER hurt her like that, and if she continues to argue with you about those kinds of things then she doesn't trust you enough to spend the rest of her life with you. and thats when you should end the relationship..and just to add, i am only 14, so if you dont think im "credible" enough then i'll understand if you think my advice is total bogus...
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