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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:We were both in relationships when we met, but he still used to message me and we'd talk a lot but I didn't think much of it. More recently I've been single for a while and we were both at the same event over a weekend where we got on incredibly well, he was still with his girlfriend so nothing happened but afterwards he was trying to arrange to see me so I just asked, said it felt like more than friends and he said his relationship wasn't working any more and he felt really strongly for me. They broke up and I said I wouldn't dive into anything too quickly, however he reassured me, for him it'd been over in his head for a long time and I was all he could think about.It accelerated really quickly and within a couple of weeks he already thought of me as his girlfriend. We were completely infatuated with each other and really happy.However, all of a sudden he's feeling guilty, and lonely, and hollow and sick all of the time. He's finally realised he didn't give himself a chance to get over his break-up.This leaves me sort of on the side-line to his upset. He's adamant he misses her as a friend and they had been together a long time and it doesn't change how he feels about me, but right now he just can't concentrate on a new relationship.I said I'd give him some distance which he isn't happy about but agrees is for the best. My question, giving him distance feels completely unnatural. The last time I saw him he didn't want me to leave, wouldn't let go of me, couldn't stop kissing me, staring deep into my eyes ect and generally just looking very sad. HIs giving him distance the right thing to do? I just want to be with him so badly and I know he does me, but al the complications are making it so difficult. Has anyone been in a similar situation and could offer any advise?
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reader, lifesgreat +, writes (2 December 2014):
he could of had a 'grass is greener on the other side experience'
If I was you just leave him to get on with it because at the end of the day if he wants you then he will come back to you.
But at the same time you want somebody to be sure about it and not just what they think they want.
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