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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. When we first met I had just lost a couple close friends in a car accident and was going through a pretty tough time. He pulled me through it. In a little more than a year we have been through a lot together. He has been wonderful and until very recently has never had a problem with expressing his love for me... That's where you come in. What do I do? In the past few weeks he has just seemed bored of me. He doesn't say I love you as much and he's just generally really quiet. We've had fights and rough periods in our relationship, but this is different.. Its worse. We can't communicate at all. I'm still young, I've thought.. We had fun and maybe it is time to let go and move on. I can't though, I have a fear of losing people I love and I love him so much. I don't know what to do I can't get him to talk about it. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2007): Hi
Just a suggestion...maybe he needs some space for a while. Why don't you try spending time with your own friends and doing the things you love. Guys are different, unlike gals, they don't readily talk about their feelings. If you sit on them they withdraw further. Try to spend some fun time together and not talk about the relationship too much, to remember that you really love each other's company whether you say it or not.
Good luck and hang in there...relationships are not easy and walking away is not necessarily the right answer...if you love him, why do you want to let him go
Priya
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reader, Sadi +, writes (14 February 2007):
 Losing people you love is the hardest thing ever... Im sorry about your friends...
When you are in a relationship, theres the butterflies, and the whole getting excited to see him... stage.. sounds like you had that butterfly feeling for awhile.. I dont blame you for possibly thinking of moving on. But do keep in mind, after the butterfly feeling, there comes the comfortable feeling. And right now, hes finally at the " comfortable " stage... And that's good. That means to him that he's comfortable to be around you. And he doesnt have to tell you the " i love you's " all the time, because he knows that you already know... And the whole quiet thing, hmm , what can I say, he's a guy... it happens...
I also think that If this is the comfortable stage, and its still good ( maybe quieter then normal ) Then girl you got it made..
But, You also said you were younge... Please understand the stages in your relationship I"ve explained... If you go talk to him about it, He would either think your insecure, but on the other hand, you tell him how you feel, and he might recignize the fact that you need his attention...
I hope I helped,
-Good luck !!
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reader, baby blue fairy  +, writes (14 February 2007):
your right to feel this way given your past experiances it must be hard for you but you must know that now hes not going to do anything else so its up to you to make the first move if you want the realtionship to last, explain to our byfriendask him how hes feeling and then tell him how you are feeling best of luck but maybe he thinks its time to call it a day our feeling insecure so tell him thats how a realtionship works you express your feelings be how you are be you like i say its completely up to you know this dnt rele help but gud luck any how
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reader, lahainaKat +, writes (14 February 2007):
Aloha ,most relationship's seem to quite down starting around 9 months into them. You might not want to throw in the towel so soon. Your not in a abusive relationship, it is just smoothing out, the excitement and I love you's always slow down. This is the time communication starts to kick in everyone will tell you it's hard work being in a happy relationship. Ask him how he is feeling and what he wants out of this relationship...I bet you will be surprised at his answer....he is probably just fine. and if he is not tell him to let you know. If he cares about you he will tell you his true feelings. Then you will be able to move on....Aloha Kat
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