| A
female
,
*oonlaw
writes: Hi, I knew this guy since 6 months ago. I love him very much but we are always fight. One day passes and everything seems to be wonderful; the next day we fight for a silly reason.The problem is that he is very sensitive and he got a hot temper too. I tried to change him so many times but I really give up. He is 30 years old but he is dealing as a child when we fight. And what makes things worse is that we are apart from each other and we only contact by chatting or emails and phone calls. I don't wanna lose him 'cause I know that he is good but in the same time I'd like to have a normal relationship were I can discuss with him anything. If something comes up in my mind I'd like to talk about it with him; he shows so much sensitivity towards things.Trust me, this is serious 'cause I wanna know him more and more and I believe that the only way to know some one very well is by talking and by exchanging points of view about any different subjects. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, moonlaw +, writes (5 January 2006):
moonlaw is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto Mr.. anonymous, First of all let me thank you for this thoughtful answer , I knew the facts that you were talking about , the truth is we had a big fight yesterday and that's why I logged in here because I didn't know how to deal with this situation .........we don't wanna be involve with someone to turn our lives to misery !!!!!!!!!! and as the situation start to get worst and worst each time we start a new conversation about something I thought that there is might be a problem ...I feel guilty and for your information yesterday I took the whole responsibility for yesterday fight .............I just know that he is good and caring man and its rarely to find someone like that and one more fact .......NO ONE IS PERFECT !!!!!!!!!
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2006): sounds to me like you are putting all the blame on him when in reality you are both fighting and it takes two to tango. look at the following statement you wrote:
"The problem is that he is very sensitive and he got a hot temper too. I tried to change him so many times but I really give up. He is 30 years old but he is dealing as a child when we fight."
you first criticize him and then admith that you tried to "change him" youre basically alledging that when you fight it is all his fault, which actually leads me to believe that its mostly your fault. re-exmine the situation. remember that we guys have big ego's, and once you start to criticize us or act mean we are not going down without a fight,its just our nature. just let him be right and think he is the man once in a while and he will not be so sensitive or quick to fight with you about other stuff
...............................
|
