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writes:I sent a question in ages ago about me having problems with my sister (12th may) she's 18, im 20 and I've tried to respond and communicate to her with advice i was given on this site and things haven't improved. In fact, they've gotten worse. We hardly ever talk now and when we do we always argue and we don't do anything together (we're different genders for crying out loud what am I suppose to do with her). Can anyone help me out otherwise when I leave home I just won't be bothered talking to her if we're just going to fight all the time. Reply to this Question
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reader, Toria +, writes (25 September 2006):
 When you live at home sometimes you don't communicate with your siblings very well, I know when I was living at home me and my brother had a very strained relationship and pretty much acted like we hated each other and didn't spend anytime together and when we did we argued and fought, which I was gutted about because alot of my friends had great relationships with their siblings and I can't understand why I couldn't get that too no matter how hard I tried.
It wasn't until I moved out and went my own way that we actually started spending time together and getting on really well to the point we actually shared a house together shared friends and went out drinking and socialising together, I even went to him with problems with my boyfriend as I knew I could trust him 100% as he was my brother.
So maybe you may find you have to just grin and bare it for now and hope it will get better when you both aren't under each others feet all the time.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (25 September 2006):
 Just apologize for the yelling at her, the arguing, the miscommunication and everything else she has accused you of. Be the bigger man and apologize. Don't point fingers, by pointing out her fault in all of this.
Apologize for your part of destroying the relationship. Let her know you care about her and it hurts that you had a hand in destroying the friendship.
Then just give her space, when she has digested it all and accepted your apology then she will come around. Then you can rebuild the friendship slowly.
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