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male
age
36-40,
*aul gill
writes:Hi iv been with my girlfriend since we were sixteen and im now 21 and shen is 20, im intelligent and have a photographic memory of everything in the past which is a big problem. we have broken up a few times in between that but now we have been together for 2 and a half years straight and we dearly love each other, the only problem is during one of our break ups she got with another guy for a few months, i see him regularly in my pub, she has told me that she never really liked him and the only reason she did sexual stuff with him was because she felt bad for him and she felt obliged,and after she broke up with him we started talking again but she had to go away on a trip to france to study, when she came back she told me that she had a one night stand with a 23 year old good looking guy and had lost her virginity to him. she was just eighteen at the time and i know all the details of what happened and how it happened. we did get back with each other but i still to this day get plagued with sexual images of her and the two other guys and they drive me insane, i cant accept the fact that this happend, in my head she has always been mine because i was her first boyfriend and really everything except the sex. in a way i have always felt she belongs to me and its driving me bezerk that this happend in the past, we fight about it alot and she is always reassuring but brutally honest at the same tme about everything that happend and i cant see an end to this torture and pain. please help!!
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reader, bigbucks  +, writes (15 November 2008):
man, you should leave that girl... I think no one ever forgets what has been already done. You will always remember and will fight with her about what happened.
You can go and seek professional help, but that doesn't help much,... you can read YOS's advices and think you can go over it, but I am sure when you live together, at least 2 days a week you'll spend your life regretting!!! sorry
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reader, Yos  +, writes (29 October 2008):
 This really sucks, I know exactly how you feel. This kind of problem comes up a lot here. See if either of these links (and the links on those pages) help at all:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-cope-with-my-husbands-reaction.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-would-not-have-married-her-had-i.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-cant-i-get-my-gfs-past-sex-life-out-of-my-head.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): The best thing to do is to let her go. This kind of thing will just keep eating at you for the rest of your life if you choose to stay with her. Don't do this to yourself.
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