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writes:I am 27 and my fiancee is 34. I have been previously married, no children. He has 2 children from a previous marriage that stays with us every second weekend.My fiancee used to play sports once a week but it has steadily progresses to 3 nights a week. I feel like I never see him anymore and when I bring up the subject he says I am selfish and puts the guilt trip on me.Is playing sports 3 nights a week excessive or am I just being silly?
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reader, poledra +, writes (9 October 2008):
poledra is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey Faybelline, thanks for your answer and I will give the whole situation some thought, maybe if I support him more instead of nagging, he would want to spend more time with me, so excellent point you have there, thank you so much!
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reader, Faybelline  +, writes (9 October 2008):
 I've had conversations with people about the same kind of thing as my boyfriend plays a lot of cricket for a local team in summer and wouldn't miss a game on my 21st because it's that important to him.I thought it was a bit unfair but, after talking to several people, I've realised it's just what some guys are like. It doesn't mean he loves you any less though.One guy I used to work with told me that he played football in winter and cricket in summer and he even arranged his wedding day around when he had matches!There are a lot of women out there, that I have spoken to, who are 'widows' to their partners' sports and it's just something that we have to deal with sometimes; at least he's keeping fit and healthy!Obviously it would be nice if he could compromise but it is clearly important to him and maybe you could show your support for him and show a bit more interest in it; you never know, he may be more willing to compromise a little if you do!Good Luck :)
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