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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years, from the day i met him he has always been very busy with work, and i have always accepted that and more or less taken a back seat to it.i would see him at weekends, sometimes fortnightly if he had appointments already wrote in his diary. but he always tried to keep weekends free. For the last six months or so though it seems that he is making less time for us, where he would rearrange appointments so we could be together, now he is only making time for us if he is free. and then when he does come here or i go there, we just shop and then spend the night in. i feel as though we are going stale. I cannot make plans for us, he doesnt make any for us either, so whats happing is i am waiting for him to let me know when he is free.he lives an hour and a half drive from me, i do not drive so i usually go to his by train, so i cant just pop down.he used to ring me every night, he still texts a lot, but some nights he rings me to say that he and his friend (who i have never met but seen her picture and she is stunning) are going out for a few drinks to unwind from work (they sometime do jobs together), i know he can have friends and he can go out, but, i feel as though lately they are spending more time together than me and him. maybe i am jealous? i never used to be, but i wish it was me and him spending the time together, or a least a bit more.i told him today that it would be nice for us to spend a bit more time together, he said well why arnt i arranging things then for us to do, i told him that whenever he is here he shows me his diary and that its booked way ahead so i really do not know what to arrange and when.anyway i suggested him keeping next weekend free so that we could go out to eat and maybe a drink afterwards, but he told me that he could not as he had work.he has about three nights free through the week but due to work for me i cannot travel to his and be back for work in time. those are the nights he has a drink with his work friend.any suggestions? tips? anything at all? it would be greatly appreciated
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reader, petina1 +, writes (1 October 2009):
 I'm wondering why he comes to see you at all. He doesnt seem to be making much of an effort. He finds plenty of time in his spare time to go ot with his 'friend'. Sorry but the bells are ringing here. If you are really wanting this to work one of you needs to move nearer, or move in together. Two years should be enough to find out by now if you have a future together. Hope this elps.
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