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writes:I am in a long distance relationship with my bf. Lately, I have been feeling that maybe we are just not there yet. I have always dreamt of having a perfect relationship where he would propose to me, get marry, have childrens, etc. I always wanted my bf to be madly in love with me and I would be too (can't live without each other kind of thing). But that has not been the case, my boyfriend is not loveable and sweet with me, he will not die for me, and is not that passionate about me. I have mention the marriage and the kids things and he says he does not want to marry. Due to this lack of passion of him for me, I had become bitter, andgry, and I can't seem to stop being mad at him and argue with him. (over the phone). I think, I am mad at the fact that he is not the way I would want him to be with me and also the fact that he does not want to marry and I do.We are planning to move in together in June, but we do not even seem to agree on how are we going to do the moving. 'cause that is another thing, we don't agreen on nothing.. we are part of different political paties, we are voting for different president's candidates, he like to eat home I like to eat out, I like to stay home: he likes to go out... And I could go on, on, and on.....I thought we were more similar, but everyday I discover we so different. We've been together for almost 4 years, How comes, I didn't see this things about him until now? Why now? I don't know what to do? Could you give me an advice? Should I move in with him or should I move on with my life?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (13 April 2008):
So,
1. you never see him
2. You have nothing in common
3. he doesn't want the commitment that you want
4. he doesn't love you as much as you want
and yet you are moving in with him?!?!?!?!?!!
WHAT???
Why on earth would you do that? You sound as though you are settling for something that's rubbish just because it's available.
Save yourself the time and money and don't do it. This relationship has nothing in it for you. Find a man who loves you as much as you love him, who wants marriage and kids, who is ready to commit.
They are out there. Why are you scared to break up and be single? Get yourself your own place, decorate it how you want, eat out and have a great time.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (12 April 2008):
 well over here all your saying is how much u want him to do for you have u ever thought from his point of you too, even he must be having certain expectations from his girl are u standing up to it all..if yes!!!then he is really lucky to have someone like you..if no then u have no right to blame him either..may be right now he wants to concentrate on his career and not ready for marriage..you should give it time..it was a mutual decision to date him in the first place right then u should never regret that..talk to him more often about how you feel am sure he loves you too or else he wouldnt have been with you for 4 years..try and work things out,everyone has the MY MR PERFECT BOYFRIEND but dont you think we r humans people have flaws!!!instead of arguing with him be sweet and nice you guys are in a loong distance realtionship so u have to be more loving and patient with each other!!!good luck hun!!
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