We don't see eye to eye

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

hi all im going mad my boyfriend and i have been together for 14 years we had a unexpected daughter early on in the relationship, i spent my time at home waiting for him to come bk from the pub or his hobby and tried to make the relationship a succesfull one he was hard and claimed the relationship "wasnt strong enough to take it further" i desperately wanted more kids. FOR THE RIGHT REASONS because i loved him. but he said we had to wait and wait and wait. I was angry because it was him that wasnt bothering with the relationship i tried so hard to talk to him he proposed to me at the beginning then said he didnt want to get married he thought it was the right thing to do at the time i did understand and as much as id love to get married i said ok but i do desperately want a baby. To cut a long story short i asked him to move out the frustration got to much and the relatonship was going nowhere. It devastated me because i love him that was 4 years ago in that time he came to me and said he wants us to be together and he loves me but i couldnt stop being scared that my life wasnt going anywhere wih him and he did hurt me alot so i was yes no yes no for 2 years not to be cruel to him but my head was mashed we agreed to give it another go him still knowing i want another baby and guess what he said wait and wait and wait i am 31 this year he is 33 we dont even have a house because he said it wasnt the right time to buy he says we need to give ourselves time. time for what?? he says he wants a baby and he loves me, i love him and now i have an opportunity to go to university i want to have security and a good wage am i being unreasonable to him thanks sorry its so long xxxx

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