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writes: I don't love my ex boyfriend anymore and he doesn't love me (i don't think), however I want to get back together as I still feel SOMETHING for him, even though i'm not entirely sure what it is, and we still get on so amazingly well, the sparks are still flying and we sometimes still fool around. But as we were in love but now we're not, is getting back together the right thing to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2006): Contrary to popular belief, people shouldn't and don't automatically become in love with someone they declare as their boyfriend or their girlfriend. Being in love is a gradual and in some other times, a short and/or long process or a mighty spark of some sort that goes off due to various forms, factions, and alchemy of mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical potions/ingredients.
In short, being together intimately in any form doesn't necessarily make the two people being in love. It just means, the two people are on their way of possibly being in love. If you two broke up before being in love on a stable sense, and if you still have some form of positive connective emotion towards each other, it just means you two have the chance to start over. Maybe try other ways to both achieve being in love, and continue love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2006): what makes you so sure that you've both gone out of luv? especially when you get along so well. The attraction, the chemistry is still there to me. why did you breakup in the first place? the intensity of the breakup may leave fealings of doubt where in actual fact you simply do luv him or have real fealings for him like you say. I think you need to discuss your fealings with him and find out how he feals only then will you understand the whole situation.
Good Luck
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reader, xLEAHx  +, writes (19 October 2006):
 You say you dont love each other any more yet the sparks still there ..this would mean the sexual spark,(chemistry) you still find each other atractive and turn eachother on..but theres no love in this relationship..You proberly still have very deep and strong feelings for him as people do when they fall out of love with eachother, you still love them in a sense but its a different kind of love..its good that you have still remained friends..if you really want to make another go of the relationship then why not, and see how things develope.
GOOD LUCK
xLEAHx
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reader, staying.strong +, writes (19 October 2006):
u say u don't love him but u still have sparks? u need to decide if u love him! why did u break up if it was something minorif u decide u do have strong feelings then talk to him and see how he feels!
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