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writes:I come from a christian family and so does my boyfriend. We didn't have sex though. We both decided not to do anything that would ruin our stands as Christians. But I think I'm pregnant now.. One night I was spending the the weekend with him and his family. I sneaked down to his room after everyone else was asleep just so me and him could have some alone time. We didn't do hardly anything but kiss I had my pajama pants and a bra on and he hod his boxers on. We stayed like that all night but before we slept when we were kissing he got aroused and then overly excited. Now I have skipped my period twice and I took a pregnancy test and it said positive. but I dont know how that could have happened. We didn't do anything. I havn't told him yet or my family. My mom has threatened many times that if I ever got pregnant she would kick me out the second she found out. I'm not sure where my boyfriends stands on any of this. someone please tell me how any of this is possible and how to tell my boyfriend and my parents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): i think you should take another pregnancy test i'm sorry but there is no way you can get pregnant from what ou said you done unless of course you did actually have sex
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reader, damn it +, writes (5 August 2010):
damn it is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSooo I am pregnant .. and now not living at home// yupperz she kicked me out.. :( I still havn't gotten the chance to tell the father .. he still has no idea what is going on.. any suggestions on that one?? Maybe something that will make him freak out less then my mom cause it would really halp if he didn't block me out of his life too.. I would really like my child to have a father. .. Help !?!
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reader, JewBrosef  +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Toats Agreed with comment before me. I am also a christian and although it is a sin. You didn't do anything against the commandments. You didn't have pre marital sex, no nothing. I think that you should take another test just in case... I doubt that your parents would throw you out in your most valuable time of need. What I suggest is that you tell your mother. Explain to her exactly what you've explained on here.. Good luck though. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010): I've heard of people having sex through shorts and getting pregnant so if he was shoving his penis into your vagina, even with clothes, that could be how it happened.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (26 July 2010):
 You must be very confused and worried. If any of his semen made it to your vulva at the right time and you were fertile, this could have resulted in a pregnancy, even if you didn't have sexual intercourse.
There's an educational video about it here: http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html (it's got some cheesy dialog but it is very eye-opening)
I think you are going to have to tell your family and your boyfriend, but it sounds as though you will need help. It is a bit amazing to me that a self-described Christian woman would be so unforgiving and hurtful that she would throw her daughter out. I sincerely hope she was saying it for impact and not because she intends to carry that out. I believe she could be charged with child-neglect or endangerment and could face prosecution if she ever did carry out such a low threat.
So the problem is that you have to tell someone. Do you have another relative who is sympathetic, an aunt or grandmother, or uncle or grandfather, or an older sister or brother? I would consider going to them and being honest.
As far as proving virginity goes, a gynecologist I think is likely to be able to detect the hymen if it hasn't been ruptured by tampons or strenuous physical exercise. So you could have that on your side.
I have a website that is the Kid's Help Line for Canada, I urge you to call them and get some local resources for you. http://org.kidshelpphone.ca/enbb
Kid's Help Line - 24 hours - 1-800-668-6868
Ask for a referral to the nearest Sexual Health Clinic or Center that helps teens in crisis.
I guess I would talk to your boyfriend first, his parents are going to need to know as well and they could help you tell your mother and family as well.
Talk it through with the helpline staff or the local coordinator at the sexual health clinic.
Sorry you are going through this worry--it's a very difficult situation. Best wishes to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2010): I don't know how this could have happened. go see a doctor and ask him what you asked us! maybe take another test... and tell your boyfriend!
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reader, i.love.you  +, writes (26 July 2010):
 This looks to me rather strange, usually if you're a virgin (in the sense of having a hymen) it is impossible for the sperm to reach your eggs.
Though this is the norm it is possible to rip your hymen through exercise such as gynastics and such. If the pregnancy test said positive - added to the missed periods I think it's about time you told your mom.
I do not believe that your mother would kick you out - parents say that to scare teenage girls away from having sex. Tell her the whole truth sparing no details whatsoever and swear on the Bible if she seems disbelieving.
Hope this helps :)
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reader, Elydiese +, writes (26 July 2010):
It could be a false positive, you should take another test because if you are telling the truth that you both had some sort of clothing the risk of getting pregnant is so low probably like 0.0001%
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