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We didn't break up because we didn't love each other, I want to get her back!

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Question - (17 April 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 18 April 2009)
A male United Kingdom age 36-40, *h207 writes:

just over a month ago my girlfriend of 15 months almost completely out of the blue dumped me.

often she'd say how she wanted to be with me forever and never wanted me to leave her which i happily said i wouldn't.

then she took part in our uni play and went on a few nights out with the cast and really enjoyed them, but it made her start thinking.

this was the first serious relationship for both of us we were both really happy and being at the same uni got to spent a lot of time together, which we both enjoyed.

we broke up a couple of weeks before the end of term (its now easter holidays and i haven't seen her for about 3 weeks). we talked a few times before the holidays and everytime we did she cried and said how much she missed but this was something she had to do.

it feels as though she didn't break up with me because she stopped loving me or because i didn't make her happy, she said she was confused and wasn't sure what she wanted.

i miss her greatly and was wondering how best to try and get her back?

i'm 21 and she's 20

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A male reader, rcn United States +, writes (18 April 2009):

rcn agony auntIn these situations, I can't figure out why people end a relationship. Sure, first serious relationship, but in love and making each other happy. Why leave that for experience? Why end a happy relationship, for the unknown? Two people who are compatible, with or without previous relationships, can find happiness. Once it's found it seems a bit odd to give that up, and for what? What is actually accomplished? Her crying and being unhappy. You being upset and missing her. Generally people seek to be happy, not go from being happy and deciding not to be.

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