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writes:my boyfriend moved to italy a few months ago, and we were in a really happy relationship. ive been over to visit once and he comes home for xmas soon. recently we've decided we talk to eachother too much, and this is causing us to have arguments, so we aggreed to speak less, but have better conversations (quality not quantity). but this was nearly 4 days ago and since he hasnt spoken 2 me..i havent been pesterin him to talk to me but it now feels like i have no contact with myboyfrind what so ever. i love my boyfriend a lot and he says he loves me, but why isnt he talkin to me??? is this the end of our relatonship? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): Long distance relationships can be quite tricky. Agreed that phone conversations are necessary to be in touch but since they are devoid of any facial expressions or body language, more often than not the other party ends up mis-interpreting the conversation and it leads to more grief than joy, more problems rather than solutions and at times it ends up weakening a healthy relationship.You can follow a pattern of not talking frequently for a week but then making up for the lost time the week after. Or rather have a schedule, a time-table if you will for the calls. Try to avoid excessive and impulsive calling- thats the main culprit. Do give in to some romantic calls at times.But being human we need some form of emotional outlet and if you or your boyfriend reach out to someone else, alls lost! Keep a timeline and by then if you feel that you are not getting enough quality time or that you are not *the* one anymore, call it quits!
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (30 November 2007):
 The truth is in a long distance relationship the only thing you do have is conversation. Relationships need to build and grow and the only way to do that is being together and sharing the experience of life. If you two, as a couple, can not accomplish this, by conversation or face to face interactions, there is a big possibility that the relationship will eventually end.
Good luck!
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