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writes:i been in a relationship with my boyfriend for six years and we met really young i cheated on him two years into the relationship and he found out and i just recently told him we were not very stable at the time i cheated on him and were together off and on but recently we decided to start a new. he cheated on me a couple times before some sexual and some were just phones conversations with other women all these times i forgave him. since we are starting over i decided to just come clean just like he did i did not want to start the relationship off with a lie and i feel that he has the right to choose to be with me or not. when we were talking he said i just want you to admit to it thats all i just want the truth. at this time i figured we are better more mature and i really feel like we are stronger than to let something like this that happened so long ago come between us but now that i told him he doesnt want to talk to me and thats fine i understand hes mad hurt upset betrayed i felt the same way to so im going to give him all the time he needs. i just dont understand why he cant talk to me i understand people heal differently but i feel abandoned like i did before when he cheated on me i still spoke to him i still called him there was no doubt in my mind that i still loved him and i wanted this to work out but why is it harder for him to forgive me for something he has done so many times before i thought he would understand that what i did was in the past i would never do it again and all i wanted was to start out without secrets or lies that im a new person im much older now we been together for so long and i know what i want.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (1 February 2010):
 This relationship began six years ago. It ended the moment one of you cheated. you've entered the vicious cycle of in and out of the cycle. it is'nt even a relationship anymore. it's just comfort because he's what you know best.
I'd move on and accept that for a long time this relationship was not meant to be and its very exhausted. You will love again, and find a great guy even though you think you wont ... you will. And it will be great, but you've just got to get past this moment.
If he's not talking to you. It's likley he's actually figured all this out and moved on himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): he is going to think everything from that point (point of cheating) has been a lie. he will always have that confession the back of his mind. it will slip up and come out sometimes.
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reader, defeated  +, writes (1 February 2010):
the problem is most guys cheat and expect to be forgiven, but when their partner cheats it effects the ego; the thoughts of not being good enough, and as i know from having a cheating partner, how can sex be enjoyable knowing what happened during ie what went where
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